
What do you get when you cross atheism and skepticism with radical feminism? If this isn’t an interesting question for you then you should read no further. I think it’s interesting that radical feminism can make enemies of both the atheist/skeptical and traditionalist Christian communities. It also can be used as an example of how people tend to let unconscious biases color their perceptions.
The Short and Sweet Synopsis
Some background. There is a relatively small but influential group of people who refer to themselves as members of the skeptical community. These people , some of whom are religious, some of whom are agnostic, and some of whom are atheist tend to have scientific interests and feel that the role of science is important in society and so often feel they must (or find it fascinating to do so) debunk popular superstitions such as astrology. Because some of the most prominent (though not all) of the members of this community are atheists, and because being an atheist can make one very unpopular, the term “atheist” is often separated out and the overall community is known as the atheist/skeptical community. Of course, like all groups of people with similar interests they often like to get together whether online or at real life meetings such as TAM a.k.a The Amazing Meeting. For years it has been noted that the atheist/skeptical community is predominately male, and lack of females at events and get-togethers is a common complaint. Things seem to have gotten somewhat better over time, and women within the community disagree as to what causes the issue, what seems to be somewhat mitigating it, and what to do to finish solving it. Our story starts early in June of this year. Rebecca Watson, a fairly prominent atheist blogger was at a conference in Dublin, Ireland. She gave a speech, which is available at the links below, where she talked about some issues of male sexism in the so-called “Skeptical” community. After the speech, she hung out in a hotel bar till roughly 4am in the morning. According to her, as she was leaving to go to her room, a man whom she had seen at the speech and in the bar asked her if she would like to go up to his room for a coffee in a very self-effacing way. Watson rebuffed his advances, and then man politely respected her “no” and did not bother her again. As this was late at night, and in an enclosed area –the elevator – Watson felt uncomfortable and a bit threatened , and so she mentioned the incident in the next video on her blog. It was not the main thrust of the video, instead Ms. Watson calmly mentioned the incident towards the middle, and left some advice “men, don’t do this”.
A student female skeptic blogger by the name of Stephanie McGraw saw the video and made a mild (at least it seems so to me) post on her much less well known blog where she basically told Ms. Watson not to generalize men as harassers, and not to presume to speak for all skeptical women. While this was happening some of what Ms. Watson had said in her video was getting pushbacks from men in the comments of various atheist/skeptical sites like PZ Meyers blog, PHARYNGULA, who similarly felt accused as a group, of bad approach etiquette towards women. This caused some feminists to defend Watson and started heating up various flamewars. Over time it emerged that there were two types of feminist responses to the issue which might be termed “gynocentric” and “egalitarian”. Some feminists felt and wrote that Elevator Guy –which, as he has never been named is what he is called – or EG, was a sexist pig who obviously heard Watson say she didn’t want to be picked up or hit on during either the speech she gave or certainly doing her time in the bar. According to this narrative, EG deliberately ignored Ms. Watson’s express wishes and instead chose to corner her in an elevator late at night and proposition her for sex. The egalitarian feminists, on the other hand, would say that EG probably was merely shy and socially clueless and might not have been propositioning Ms. Watson at all.
Stung or offended by McGraw’s criticism, Watson took the debate public at a conference for younger student atheists that both were attending, Watson as speaker, and McGraw as an audience member. After having discussed the incident and flashed some examples of hateful and misogynistic emails that she had received, Watson spoke about McGraw’s opinion piece. While she sat in the audience, McGraw was accused of basically being a gender traitor by helping promote misogyny. McGraw felt devastated as due to the rules of the forum –where one only gets 60 second to ask a question or make a statement that the Speaker can ignore and where the Speaker would have the last word- she felt she was being publically attacked with no way to defend herself. So she went back to her blog and wrote a post.
Meanwhile a flame war over the original issue continued with much use of terms such as “rape culture” and “misogyny” being thrown around, showing that when it comes to contentious issues , skeptics can be just as irrational as anyone else. Richard Dawkins (author of The Selfish Gene, The Blind Watchmaker, and The God Delusion, books infamously unpopular with Christians everywhere and inventor of the “meme” concept) weighed in on Meyer’s blog, comparing Watson’s plight in the elevator and the amount of alleged sexism in the man’s approach with the plight of a woman in the Muslim world and basically stating that RW had nothing to complain about. This caused an even bigger uproar as Dawkins is an internationally famous and respected proponent of atheism and skepticism, and most of the “gynocentric” branch of feminism “circled the wagons” feeling that if someone of the stature of Richard Dawkins would defend EG that sexism within the skeptical community was worse than they thought. A few even said they would boycott Dawkins’s books as a result including Ms. Watson, though there was never an active boycott set up. As for the incident between Stephanie McGraw and Rebecca Watson, quite a few people have said that they have lost respect for Ms. Watson over this incident, even while they sympathized with her initial complaint about being hit on by EG.
While the incident in full might seem petty and a bit silly, there have been some real world consequences:
A. The split between types of feminism in the atheist community is open for all to see, with many of the “gynocentrists” at ideologically friendly places like PHARYNGULA basically attempting to “excommunicate” some of the “egalitarians”. Also, the “gynocentric” view does seem to have more overall institutional support.
B. Conservative Christians, such as those at Conservopaedia have had much fun with this brouhaha as their internal disputes have often been subjected to ridicule by the atheist and skeptical communities.
C. While there haven’t been any big blowups about any of this at a convention yet, Rebecca Watson and a rather small group of supporters did boycott Dawkins’s speech at TAM.
D. There is a timeline available at my first link.
My Thoughts
It would be easy to be smarmy and talk about how one shouldn’t allow women into your male treehouse or how feminists always mess up things and etc. But that would be preaching to the choir here – that is, the idea that feminists muck up things, not that boys and girls can’t play together – and wouldn’t really be interesting to me. I find several things in this mess worth commenting on:
1. Human groups, once they get large enough to institutionalize procedures and establish a hierarchy all seem to share similar traits, whether they are religious or secular in nature. As an example, almost any sizeable group will have an “orthodox” position of some sort. Feminists are no different, even if they are otherwise rational and skeptical leaning. Yes, “excommunicate” is indeed what they have done and tried to do to the “egalitarians” in their midst, even if they don’t use the term. That they have some institutional support is obvious as members of some conferences have openly embraced the “gynocentric” view of this incident and Watson has mostly received either sympathetic or even (in my opinion) syncophatic attentions in the mainstream scientific press, such as Scientific American (3). To be fair, there has been some dissent published as well.
2. As I am sure most of you know, people are not very careful in argumentation, and the internet would seem to have proliferated this problem. Take Elevator Guy for example. Many people’s responses to what he allegedly did are based on facts not in evidence. It’s not just a matter of believing that one can “read” the mind of a man who has never emerged to give his “side of the story”. It goes beyond that. Many people assume:
A. Elevator Guy heard RW state that she wished not to be “hit on” either in the bar, or earlier in the speech she gave. In fact, the speech she gave never mentioned anything about male approaches at all, instead it was in response to a fellow female skeptic who had said she saw no evidence of sexism in the community. And as many (3, John Gregg, comments section) have pointed out, not only are bars often crowded, noisy, and rather large, but there is no indication that EG sat anywhere near Rebecca Watson, as a picture (2)of her relatively sparse personal group at that bar would seem to make clear. Of course once they make the assumption that EG heard this, he is assumed to have deliberately violated it.
B. Elevator Guy was looking for sexual contact. In fact, if one listens to the original video EG says something to the effect of “I know how this will sound” which seems to be disclaiming sexual interest. Apparently he might have wanted to talk not make love.
C. Then, there is the fact that many blogs and posts on this outright ignore the Stephanie McGraw incident, even though that helped keep the fighting going., and lost Rebecca Watson some fans.
3. VAGINA PASS: Rebecca Watson, while not stunning , is reasonably good looking. One of the things that she was known for in the Skeptics community besides her podcasts , speaking events, and blog, was a nude picture she took as part of a calendar she put together which posed many ladies in the community a few years ago. The pic is actually rather demure – while she is obviously nude, she’s mostly covered with a book which she holds in front of her whilst reclining on a bed. Regardless, she has quite a few “fanboys” and “white knights”, who will rush to her aid pretty much no matter what she does. As a self-identified feminist, she gets that sector of support as well. In my opinion, through this whole thing she has rudely and with much condescension, but her defenders generally absolve her of all blame.
4. SHAMING LANGUAGE: In the various conversations at the various blogs one can easily see that feminists use shaming language every bit as much as any tradional lady, the difference in my opinion is that they do so less honestly. At least trad-con ladies often have one standard to hold men to.
5. This looks like the opening salvo in a larger war. Certainly gynocentric feminists with their Title IX push for more women in the sciences have a multi decade headstart in the propaganda on this subject . The skeptical community tends to be very supportive of getting more women into the sciences in general: if men feel that a radical Andrea Dworkin style of feminism is behind the complaints that might damage their credibility. Oh, and did I mention that Amanda Marcotte is involved in this brouhaha as well? Bet you can’t guess which side she comes down on.
Anyway, why did I write about this? Well, there seems to be an almost infinite amount of things to discuss such as the skeptical community, sexism in geek cultures, the personalities of the people involved, feminism in “progressive movements” and etc. Further, there seem to be a relative lack of accessible summaries of this whole thing , esp. ones written from a somewhat “outside” point of view. As far as I can tell, this is the only such post, esp. one so comprehensive. And it’s only HERE on Traditional Christianity. Irony, right? Lastly, I suspect the Christians on Traditional Christianity might want to “point and laugh” or maybe say “there but for the Grace of God, go I”. If anyone is reading this and not sleeping now that you’ve reached the end, I hope you enjoyed it.
*Warning some links, particularly the second contain profane language.
LINKS
1. Timeline
2. Pic of bar
3. Scientific American
4. Stephanie McGraw
5. Watson on Dawkins
6. Watson before EG

Chels
August 3, 2011
Rebecca Watson, while not stunning , is reasonably good looking
1. She’s ugly.
2. Do your posts always have to be so long? But yeah, no arguments from me on what you said.
Morticia
August 3, 2011
“Reasonably good-looking”? You are VERY generous. She is even uglier than me.
Svar
August 3, 2011
Ha, I can tell why she is radical feminist. Clarence, you need a new prescription for your glasses.
Chels
August 3, 2011
Morticia, can I slap you? What’s with all the self-deprecating?
Morticia
August 3, 2011
Chels- I was actually giving myself a compliment right there. It isn’t everyday I see a woman who is less attractive than me called “reasonably good-looking”.
Chels
August 3, 2011
*sigh* Morticia, I’m sure you’re very pretty, so stop putting yourself down.
Morticia
August 3, 2011
Not every woman is pretty. Rebecca Watson isn’t. People seem to want to think I am prettier than I am. It is weird. I’ve accepted myself as a plain jane and yet total strangers struggle to do the same. lol.
Chels
August 3, 2011
Rebecca Watson could be pretty with some bangs to cover her large forehead and with some makeup.
Btw, we’ll be the judge of your beauty, so pic pls
If I don’t see one, I stand by my affirmation that you’re very pretty.
Morticia
August 3, 2011
The good news is that you don’t actually having to be pretty for men to be willing to sleep with you. Rebecca Watson somehow gets hit on despite her lack of attractiveness…it shows that there is hope for nearly everyone if they can manage to not be as bitchy as Watson.
Morticia
August 3, 2011
Chels- Over my cold dead body am I going to put my pic on a public blog. I don’t need to show up on Roissy.
If I trust a person enough I will add them to my facebook and there are pictures there.
joanna
August 3, 2011
Ugh, no wonder she’s a feminist. Why do they make themselves look so awful? She needs some make up. I’m sure Clarence is so happy to know that the best we can come up with his very interesting post was, “She’s really ugly.” HA!
Chels
August 3, 2011
Morticia, you have Facebook? That’s soooo cool, so do I
PS: I’m sure your husbands considers you vvvv pretty, and that’s all that should really matter
Chels
August 3, 2011
@ Joanna
I did say I agree with what he said, so that should be enough lol
Morticia
August 3, 2011
Joanna- LOL. Maybe I’ll come up with something more worthwhile to add after dinner.
But yeah..she needs to learn how to draw herself a fake-upper lip with lipstick and a lip pencil. Or else get some collagen injections.
Stadt-Land-Fluss
August 3, 2011
” I don’t need to show up on Roissy.”
That seems to be the Urangst of the women here.
Chels
August 3, 2011
Is Watson married?
Clarence
August 3, 2011
Geez, people.
I think she’s reasonably doable – I assume you are just talking about the bar pic? And yeah her voice isn’t the best. But she’s thin, has all her hair and decent breasts. I’d give her a 6, and I wouldn’t put a bag over her head.
Anyway, she’s prettier than Amanda Marcotte and Roseanne Barr. She’s also prettier than me
Perhaps I should raise my standards but I really wasn’t writing this post on RW’s “hawtness”.
Chels
August 3, 2011
she hung out in a hotel bar till roughly 4am in the morning. According to her, as she was leaving to go to her room, a man whom she had seen at the speech and in the bar asked her if she would like to go up to his room for a coffee
So she’s hanging out drunk at 4AM and she complains that a man is trying to pick her up? Sounds like the motto behind slutwalk :s
And a man is sexist for hitting on her? He might be blind, but not sexist.
Clarence
August 3, 2011
Watson is married for less than 2 years and is currently separated and in the process of getting or being divorced.
Chels
August 3, 2011
Watson is married for less than 2 years and is currently separated and in the process of getting or being divorced.
Ahahahha that speaks volumes and it’s all I need to know…neeeext (although I’m surprised she lasted 2 years)
Morticia
August 3, 2011
Has all her hair.. lol
I’ll give her a couple points for being thin and having decent breasts though I don’t know if that adds up to 6. Maybe 4.
I think that it is perfectly ok to be a 4. Not everyone can be pretty or else being pretty wouldn’t be special. But what blows my mind is when someone who is not attractive is missing any semblance of humility. If you aint all that you have to make up for it with being pleasant. She has massively failed at both.
joanna
August 3, 2011
Chels – For once I agree with you. At a bar drinking until 4 in the morning? Don’t expect to be treated like a lady. What does a man see in a feminist as unattractive as she is?
A Lady
August 3, 2011
Women in mostly lower-status but ‘brainy’ male environments often get a boost, easily +2 and as high as +4. This is why geek girls tend to behave like church girls (as Haley from Haley’s Halo describes them). Ms. Watson puts on the prima donna because she’s an 8 in her little circle. Which I think is something feminists and to a lesser extent liberals more generally are super disingenuous about.
Svar
August 3, 2011
Frauen dis disgusting und schtupit is surely die sign of Die End. Hmm… Maybe Rebecca Watson is a Jotun.
deery
August 3, 2011
I never saw what the big deal was. Very few women would like to be followed from a bar at 4am, onto an elevator, and have the guy in question ask you back to his room, in a very narrow space, with no way to escape. I daresay it would raise the hackles of most women. I don’t even like talking with strangers in the elevator of the building where I work, let alone some hotel elevator. She barely mentioned the incident, basically pointing out that this was probably not the best way to sucessfully ask out a woman. Which is pretty true. Yet everyone seemed to jump all over that as if she had screamed “Death to all men!!” and burning her bra. I would like to think that all but the most socially clueless already know that EG’s approach wasn’t the best, and why.
Chels
August 3, 2011
What I don’t understand about these women is how they can be feminists and still have successful relationships with men–if you think so lowly of men, there’s no way it’s not going to affect your relationships.
Svar
August 3, 2011
This all reminds me of a saying by Tucker Max: “On a scale of one to ten, she should have hung herself”. Yes, yes, I know that it is mean but let’s all adhere to the rules: it’s not mean if it’s funny.
Svar
August 3, 2011
“PS: I’m sure your husbands considers you vvvv pretty, and that’s all that should really matter”
I know the fact that she’s managed to land more than one at a time says scores
Svar
August 3, 2011
Deery, the problem ist that die man en question was not sufficiently alpha.
Svar
August 3, 2011
If these are the kinds of girls that nerds lust after…….. then Ferd was right.
Clarence
August 3, 2011
Deery:
The only thing that should “raise your hackles” was that it was in an elevator. Other than that, she described the man as being very polite. Personally, I believe he was probably a bit shy and socially clueless. It wasn’t so much how she reacted to EG himself as what people understood the rest of her video to be saying. I would be inclined to give RW the benefit of the doubt had it ended there but:
A. Some rad fems got hold of it and basically declared it the right of all women everywhere to never be discomfitted by any approach, an obviously impossible standard
B. She took a blog post that she didn’t like and used a public speaking podium to attack a woman who was considerably younger than she is and who had no chance to defend herself
C. Her arrogance came out in full display in how she has acted since
Svar
August 3, 2011
“Morticia, you have Facebook? That’s soooo cool, so do I
”
I have a bellybutton. What about you?
Chels
August 3, 2011
Inner or outie? lol
Clarence
August 3, 2011
Ok, now that I think of it more, she’s a five.
I like her eyes but I don’t like much else about her face. It’s very plain.
And it is true that in geek environments , while there are actual pretty women, most of the geek girls tend to be equal to or less than RW in attractiveness, so clearly they get a looks premium.
David Alexander
August 3, 2011
The good news is that you don’t actually having to be pretty for men to be willing to sleep with you.
Actually, I’d consider that to be bad news. Men should only reserve sex for attractive, beautiful women.
Ugh, no wonder she’s a feminist. Why do they make themselves look so awful?
The theory on their side is that it forces people to take them seriously and not focus on their attractiveness and beauty. The other theory is that by being ugly, it scares men off from being attracted to them. When you’re a dour looking feminist, David Alexander isn’t going to lust after you, but if you’re bitchy, he may treat you like a friend. The other theory is that they’re lazy and simply trying to escape from maintaining female norms while still hoping for alphas.
Svar
August 3, 2011
“Inner or outie? lol”
What?! I am not a freak, it is an innie like a normal person’s.
Clarence
August 3, 2011
Ok. You guys can talk about whatever you want, but this is my last post on the “hawtness” issue.
RW is a five.
She’s still better than Amanda Marcotte (doable with a headbag and a gag over her unpleasant mouth) and Roseanne Barr(undoable, looks like whale), and she wouldn’t need a bag over her head. She’s not all that. Enough said.
Black_Rose
August 3, 2011
“The theory on their side is that it forces people to take them seriously and not focus on their attractiveness and beauty. The other theory is that by being ugly, it scares men off from being attracted to them. When you’re a dour looking feminist, David Alexander isn’t going to lust after you, but if you’re bitchy, he may treat you like a friend. The other theory is that they’re lazy and simply trying to escape from maintaining female norms while still hoping for alphas”
David, do you consider me bitchy?
Clarence
August 3, 2011
So what do YOU think of the whole brouhaha, Black_Rose?
deery
August 3, 2011
…The only thing that should “raise your hackles” was that it was in an elevator.
Well, yes, exactly. I’m sure if he had approached her at the bar, and done the exact same thing, it would have probably elicited no comment from RW. But a stranger approaching you in an elevator at night is a scary thing for most women. All the more if he is akward socially. He’s already violating one well-known convention, what else might he planning to do? He knew he was harmless, but RW did not know him, and have the benefit of that knowledge. If she had taken this guy up on his “innocent” offer and gone to his room just for coffee and conversation, and had had raped her, we would all be clucking about how stupid she was, and how she ignored all the warning signs. Like I said before, that scenario as she described would have raised warning signals for most women, not just her.
Svar
August 3, 2011
“If she had taken this guy up on his “innocent” offer and gone to his room just for coffee and conversation, and had had raped her, we would all be clucking about how stupid she was, and how she ignored all the warning signs.”
Who’s “we”?
Learner
August 3, 2011
I saw some mentions of this in the blogosphere but couldn’t put it all together. Now it makes sense, thanks Clarence. FWIW I don’t think she is ugly, but simply plain. Nothing wrong with that.
I think it is a bit much to think other people should never make us uncomfortable.
joanna
August 3, 2011
I agree that an elevator is always an uncomfortable place, but you can’t expect to never be talked to. I get uncomfortable when talked to on elevators at 3 in the afternoon, but that’s my issue and not theirs. If she had been riding the elevator at 11PM instead of 4AM, it may have been more populated and therefore safer. How’s that saying go? Nothing good ever happens after midnight? It’s so true.
Chels
August 3, 2011
I think her problem is that she views every man as a potential rapist, so of course she’s going to be uncomfortable in such a situation.
Black_Rose
August 3, 2011
I think the woman in the elevator had a legitimate reason to be offended, since “coffee” is often regarded as a euphemism for sex*. I don’t know how the man said “coffee”, but it could easily be interpreted as a sexual advance. If I were the elevator girl, I wouldn’t be offended, but I would be perplex and try to keep my distance away from the guy, or I would ask him to elaborate further.
*I learned about this when I read the “Hot coffee mod” article on Wikipedia a few years ago.
“The minigame portrays sexual intercourse between the main character, Carl “CJ” Johnson, and his in-game girlfriend. The name of the mod is derived from the girlfriend’s offer for the main character to come into her home for “coffee”—a euphemism for sex.”
deery
August 3, 2011
It’s interesting how far people take this. She never said that she should never be made uncomfortable, or that all men are rapists. Just that men probably shouldn’t be asking out women they don’t know (having followed them from the bar) in a elevator at 4am. A scared woman is very unlikely to be receptive to a stranger’s advances. Especially if you are the one who scared her in the first place. Should go without saying really, but the more Asperger-y among us often need things spelled out for them.
Black_Rose
August 3, 2011
I would think the man who offered her “coffee” tends to be an Aspergey person who has no malicious intentions. He merely attempted to present an affable invitation to his room for a friendly conversation.
Chels
August 3, 2011
I can agree that it’s uncomfortable, but it’s not something to write on a blog and to make such a big deal out of. And if she didn’t have that view, she probably would have forgotten about it by the next day and she wouldn’t have issued a “good behavior tip” to all men.
Chels
August 3, 2011
And really what was she afraid of? To have a coffee with a stranger or to be raped by him? I think it’s the second.
Morticia
August 3, 2011
Don’t expect guys to automatically know what is going to raise my hackles. Guys don’t know what is going to make a girl nervous and I don’t begrudge them that.
If it was 4am I probably would just not get into an elevator with someone already in it.
David Alexander
August 3, 2011
David, do you consider me bitchy?
That should be “not bitchy” with the addition of “not hideous and repulsive”.
Black_Rose
August 3, 2011
“And really what was she afraid of? To have a coffee with a stranger or to be raped by him? I think it’s the second.”
Perhaps, you think Watson interpreted the word “coffee” literally; she might have translated the word “coffee” to mean “sex”. I never personally heard of the word “coffee” used in that context, and I don’t know how often “coffee” is used to mean “sex” in casual conversation, but it seems that an informal definition of the word “coffee” could mean sex.
deery
August 3, 2011
Don’t expect guys to automatically know what is going to raise my hackles. Guys don’t automatically know what is going to make a girl nervous and I don’t begrudge them that.
If it was 4am I probably would just not get into an elevator with someone already in it.
Sure, I agree. Which is why I think RW did a breezy FYI thing on her video blog. It wasn’t even the focus of her post, but a slight tangent. Guys may not know, but most can guess, which is most usually don’t talk to you on an elevator. He was not on the elevator when she got there, *he followed her from the bar at 4am*, which would already put most women on yellow alert, and then got on the elevator with her, and then tried to strike up a conversation so he could ask her to go back to his room with him. How many women would really be fine under such a scenario? How many men would attempt to do such a thing, and hope to be sucessful?
Chels
August 3, 2011
I assume she said no to him, and that satisfied him and didn’t rape her in the elevator (that should be a clear indication that he was not a rapist, as a rapist doesn’t need permission nor does he ask first).
Chels
August 3, 2011
Black_Rose
To me coffee=coffee, as in let’s get to know each other, and not sex.
Black_Rose
August 3, 2011
Chels,
Perhaps the man’s conduct was gauche (although he didn’t seem to be rude or arrogant, and was trying to be respectful), but he isn’t a rapist. A real rapist savors the delectation in delivering fear by coercing their victims into sexual intercourse.
Smooth T
August 3, 2011
““Reasonably good-looking”? You are VERY generous. ”
Indeed. In her “check me out I’m so hot, but don’t you dare objectify me” glamour shots, she’s marginally attractive. The more candid shots I’ve seen… yeah, I wouldn’t touch her with Svar’s penis.
I tend to agree with the more hardcore manosphere posters who think the whole brouhaha was started simply because she wanted to advertise that she had been hit upon.
Rusty Shackleford
August 3, 2011
I think betas (better yet, omegas) everywhere should heed her advice – opening to a new woman with direct game in an elevator is noobishly AFC at best. Too bad the poor sap is an atheist skeptic and is therefore sorely lacking in the reasoning skills needed to learn from this mistake.
Black_Rose
August 3, 2011
Dale Gribble,
Do you think that EG lacks the general intelligence and was engaging in “game” in the elevator? He seems more Aspergy and tactless to me.
Rusty Shackleford
August 3, 2011
Lol, Black_Rose – I’ve wondered if anyone here knew where my name came from.
Regardless if he knew game or not, the game was on. His approach could have worked if he had some sort of social value display (best bet – being seen with a hotter girl than RW, which really should not be hard) AND she was in a setting where her fight or flight response would not be triggered – I can’t think of a worse place than an elevator. Closing his tab when she went to would have been a much better option. Also, you can’t lead with a venue change without any indicators of interest, especially not YOUR HOTEL ROOM. Unless maybe the IOI is her passing you a napkin that reads “take me to your hotel room NOW k thx.”
I’d agree that he’s more probably just some socially clueless dork who rages at the world on the inside. I have pretty nerdy tendencies – I’m an engineer for goodness’ sake – but this guy isn’t nerdy or geeky… He’s just incredibly, tingle-dampeningly lame.
Learner
August 3, 2011
Wasn’t her complaint that she was objectified and “sexualized”?
Black_Rose
August 3, 2011
I’ll talk later, I will watch a Ted Lilly start now.
Brendan
August 3, 2011
She revised and expanded her remarks as the situation wore on. I think she started out with a mild admonition and then it took on its own life, forcing other remarks.
This really just reflects the longer schism in feminism between the sex-oriented ones and the less-sex-oriented ones, with the former seeing men as fundamentally rapists and creating and sustaining a rape culture (through, among other things, “objectifying” and “sexualizing” women), and the latter seeing it as a no-harm-no-foul playground where as long as boundaries are respected no complaints should ensue. Unfortunately, both miss wide of the mark, as morality is really what is missing in both cases — morality that acknowledges the impermissibility of rape while recognizing and not delegitimizing or pathologizing male-typical patterns of attraction, while at the same time decrying the libertine free-for-all which insists that the only things that matter are boundaries and consent.
Feminism, in trashing morality, created huge problems, and they have never really agreed about how to resolve these problems, because they do not have the tools.
Brendan
August 3, 2011
To me coffee=coffee, as in let’s get to know each other, and not sex.
Apparently in the UK “do you want to have coffee” means “do you want to shag me”. What several UK posters on this topic have claimed.
Morticia
August 3, 2011
I am glad I now know that coffee=sex. I might have accidentally thought I was actually going to actually have coffee if someone asked me.
Svar
August 3, 2011
Heh, Mortica, you changed your pic again. Who is that a pic of, now?
Morticia
August 3, 2011
Its the lady playing morticia in the new movie that is coming out.
alcestiseshtemoa
August 3, 2011
OZConservative did a post about the false rape allegation against DSK and the incident with Rebecca Watson in the elevator a few weeks ago -> http://ozconservative.blogspot.com/2011/07/is-feminism-killing-left.html
Morticia
August 3, 2011
My favorite part of this is the “Short and Sweet Synopsis” heading followed by about 700 words.
alcestiseshtemoa
August 3, 2011
Wasn’t her complaint that she was objectified and “sexualized”?
Yes but probably by the wrong man. A “beta” as gamers would say. If he was a hunk and somebody she liked she wouldn’t be throwing out “raaaaapeee!”.
Clarence
August 3, 2011
Gals/Guys:
Please remember that EG specifically seemed to disclaim sexual intent. Watson claim he started his proposition out with something to the effect of “I know how this is going to sound but…”
Thanks.
Clarence
August 3, 2011
Morticia:
Considering the amount of words and bloggers involved over a 5 week time period, the background information that needed to be imparted to a general reader, and the fact that “Elevatorgate” consists of at least 3 important incidents, I actually think my synopsis was pretty short and sweet.
Besides, reading it was such sweet torture and we all know that Morticia likes that.
Morticia
August 4, 2011
Clarence- I don’t think I ever wrote anything that long. I am afraid I would get carpal tunnel syndrome.
alcestiseshtemoa
August 4, 2011
Not every woman is pretty. Rebecca Watson isn’t. People seem to want to think I am prettier than I am. It is weird. I’ve accepted myself as a plain jane and yet total strangers struggle to do the same. lol.
I’ve experienced the opposite. People have always commented on how pretty I am (my mother even has a few stories of how in my childhood strangers were calling me a pretty little girl) but I believe myself to be nothing more than a plain Jane. I grew up in my early teenage years being mocked because I was missing a front tooth (I was called “open window” once and other things). An old school friend called me an ugly duckling blossoming into a swan. Go figure.
alcestiseshtemoa
August 4, 2011
I’ve experienced the opposite.
Sorry I meant “I’ve experienced the same.”
David Collard
August 4, 2011
Brendan, good point. We have gone from religious puritanism to feminist puritanism in a few decades. There was a brief interregnum in the late 60s and early 70s. The Austin Powers Era.
She looks average to me.
I never thought I would feel sorry for a male atheist, but I feel sorry for coffee guy. I suspect he had seen women have sex on TV on the pretext of coffee, and thought he might do the same. That will teach him to try to be normal.
Black_Rose
August 4, 2011
Good job, Theodore Roosevelt Lilly III, especially for someone’s whose fastest fastball only reached 90 mph during that game.
6 IP, 7 K, 1 BB, 1 ER, 1 HR, 1 R. Typical Lilly, giving up the long ball
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Regarding my own physical looks, I was all-above average but never stunning. I felt like that I was too short (5’2″) and had relatively small breasts to be smoking hot. However, I have a trim, hourglass figure, and never struggle with controlling my weight.
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David, what do you have against male atheists?
Black_Rose
August 4, 2011
“Feminism, in trashing morality, created huge problems, and they have never really agreed about how to resolve these problems, because they do not have the tools.”
What do you mean feminism doesn’t have the moral tools to resolve issues of sexual morality? A secular system of morality can easily condemn rape; for instance, a utilitarian would argue that rape violates the preferences of its victims since women do not want to placed in a scenario where a man physically overwhelms and intimidates them for his own sexual pleasure. In this case, since rape causes disutility for the victim (while not providing any tangible benefit except for its perpetrator), then it can be considered wrong.
As for me, I am a content with the putative boundaries (requiring only the consent of individuals in addition to the stipulation that no individual is under any form of economic or physically duress) for sexual conduct that are supposedly embraced by the “less sex-oriented feminists”. I see no compelling reason why should I be an ideological opponent of feminism, and, instead, I see contemporary geopolitical trends possessing a greater potential to harm the welfare of the people than mainstream feminism.
Although I dislike most men, I do not hate men in general; however, I would embrace traditionalism if the men who possess social influence are virtuous and civic-minded, but since these men embrace bourgeois values, I do not see their influence as morally legitimate, and thus I have no obligation to respect any patriarchic institutions.
David Collard
August 4, 2011
BR, you women are funny, the way you analyse your looks like that. BTW, many men don’t care about cup size much.
I shouldn’t say I dislike male atheists, or indeed females. Being a scientist, I understand some of their motivations. I believe in evolution, for example. I just find people like Richard Dawkins and PZ Myers very unpleasant as personalities.
Black_Rose
August 4, 2011
I thought you have something against male atheists because of their philosophical views, but instead, you dislike them because of their hostile and audacious demeanor towards those of religious faith.
BTW, what do you think of Jerry Coyne. He seems to be the most philosophically articulate of the New Atheists, while PZ Myers merely posts crassly, obscene fulminations against anyone who has religious faith without discussing theology or philosophy.
I don’t see why should I advocate strident atheism, provided that religion has little de facto political, social, and economic influence (like in the Scandinavian countries where they have a state religion, violating the principle of the separation of church and state, but are nonetheless secular nations.)
Alte
August 4, 2011
That seems to be the Urangst of the women here.
Well, we’ve seen those guys tear photos apart. It gets ugly. I had thought about using that pic from my old blog for my avatar…. and then I recovered my sanity. LOL I remember how Ferd+Co were acting about the Swedish FRAs, and I cringed because I found them reasonably attractive.
David Collard
August 4, 2011
The Swedish FRAs were quite attractive, IIRC.
Black_Rose
August 4, 2011
FRA? What?
David Collard
August 4, 2011
False rape accuser. I doubt that Julian Assange would bother with unattactive women. He has a very healthy ego.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
I agree with David Collard. Assange’s women were both hotter than Watson. Anna Ardin is a “7″ and Sofia Wilen is a “6″.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
I’m glad to see my suggested pic made the post after all. I thought it was too naughty and that Alte censored it.
David Collard
August 4, 2011
From the video, Watson is mediocre. But atheist intellectual men are likely to care less about female beauty than most men. I know a lot of clever men who seem not to care about looks on women.
This case may be bad for feminists. They are turning off their natural allies. It bears out the general rule that chumps are punished for being chumps.
Brendan
August 4, 2011
What do you mean feminism doesn’t have the moral tools to resolve issues of sexual morality? A secular system of morality can easily condemn rape
Rape, yes, but rape is the easy case — everyone condemns it. It’s the rest of the panoply of behaviors that feminism is of two minds on, because it does not accept common morality.
Rusty Shackleford
August 4, 2011
Black_Rose-
I thought you have something against male atheists because of their philosophical views, but instead, you dislike them because of their hostile and audacious demeanor towards those of religious faith.
Well, not just male athiests, but females too. The High Church atheists are completely obnoxious, and while theyve taken more time to assure themselves that God does not exist than a simple nonbeliever, the vast majority are worse than Chels when it comes to having a logical discussion.
Militant Atheists are a group of mildly intelligent people that congratulate themselves on being smarter than the average Christian. However they fail to realize that their IQs pale in comparison to most Christian intellectuals, as do their reasoning and observation (namely of human nature) abilities.
David Collard
August 4, 2011
Well, they are clever men, but they don’t know much about religion.
David Collard
August 4, 2011
Has the coffee pervert made a statement himself?
Clarence
August 4, 2011
David Collard:
No one has heard from the guy nor do they know who he is or if he really even existed.
And I hope you were being tongue-in-cheek, or critiquing his choice of women, because from how Watson described him he did nothing perverted or rude. He was just creepy because he asked her for either conversation or sex while they were in an elevator.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
Brendan:
Rape isn’t that easy a case , because, at least in feminism, there is a big argument over what it is. Check out I Blame the Patriarch or Feminade to hear about how all penis -in-vagina sex is rape because women can’t really consent, and they’ve all been brainwashed anyway.
Black_Rose
August 4, 2011
Rusty, where is your evidence that “Christian intellectuals” have higher IQs than New Atheists? Why do you even bring up IQ, and why it is even relevant in discussion that concern the veracity of religious beliefs?
Also, my remarks concern the demeanor of the New Atheists, which I presume is uncorrelated with their intelligence (individually).
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As we repaint the darkness with color of our feelings, if we put all our memories, bonds, and hopes together…
David Collard
August 4, 2011
Clarence, you are an urbane man. I was joking. I feel sorry for coffee guy. If he exists.
Rusty Shackleford
August 4, 2011
It may be uncorrelated with their actual intelligence. I haven’t pulled the data, nor am I going to. Some of history’s greatest thinkers have been Christian theologists/philosophers. I’ll let you compare these people with present-day HCA writers.
However, all of that wasn’t really my point. My point is that militant Atheists think they are way smarter than they are, and coupled with a general mild social retardation, their demeanor is generally repulsive. South Park summed up the M.O. of the High Churchers perfectly – “You have to be a dick to everyone who doesn’t think like you.”
Black_Rose
August 4, 2011
“It’s the rest of the panoply of behaviors that feminism is of two minds on, because it does not accept common morality.”
What do you mean two minds? Although some systems of feminist moral are incompatible, they seem to be internally consistent. By utilizing the general principles of utilitarian ethics, such as the principle of respecting other’s informed preferences and interests, one can construct a fairly coherent system of sexual ethics. Perhaps, you deem that these secular formulations of sexual ethics not repressive enough since it implicitly condones the libertine sexual predilections of some people, provide that both partners are consenting adults, but they does not provide any disincentives for promisculty among those of lower intelligence. But since the New Atheists (which I do not consider myself a part of) have above-average intelligence, I would say that it is not their problem.
*Libertarian ethics can also provide a satisfactory paradigm for formulate a sexual ethic.
David Collard
August 4, 2011
I can imagine the mindset of people like that because I could easily have been one, given my personality and training. I just happen to be religious. They think that believers are silly and irrational. I used to argue with creationists myself, then I realised I was wasting my time and being obnoxious. I am highly opinionated, but I have learned to cool it a bit. But people like PZ Myers have never really grown up.
Black_Rose
August 4, 2011
“You have to be a dick to everyone who doesn’t think like you.”
I am like this in real life, but not to people who merely disagree with me religiously.
I am often indifferent, oblivious, and sometimes rude to other men, especially those who do not share my ideological convictions (for instance those who are dismissive of the economic plight of the working and lower classes, and possess nescience on the impact of neoliberalism on contemporary geopolitics), but I will bestow respect and adoration to men who say things like this:
I don’t trust the most of the women in the feminist movement(s). This is one reason why:
http://www.ginandtacos.com/2011/08/03/semantics/
- Shouting the signal to start, we’ll do what our souls want
and vault over our cramped and mediocre lives!
We’ll make a dash and attain every bit of our brillant futures!
Embracing the bonds we so believe in, we’ll race towards tomorrow.
Rusty Shackleford
August 4, 2011
By utilizing the general principles of utilitarian ethics
Utilitarianism is a decision-making tool, not a code of ethics. Numbers have no ethical meaning, especially when we cannot assign numerical values to the human condition and are fully incapable of making all the calculations involved with a truly utilitarian decision.
Libertarian ethics can also provide a satisfactory paradigm for formulate a sexual ethic.
Libertarian ethics rely on religion. Even if it’s only the belief in “natural rights” or “natural law” (may not be a ‘religion’ per se, but those are faith-based beliefs). A might-makes-right approach to ethics is just as logically sound, so you have to have a reason to choose natural rights over rule of strength.
Black_Rose
August 4, 2011
David, I agree, I don’t find PZ to be philosophically enriching, since most of his posts on theism merely attack the most deluded and fundamentalist Christians.
- Shouting the signal to start, we’ll do what our souls want
and vault over our cramped and mediocre lives!
We’ll make a dash and attain every bit of our brillant futures!
Embracing the bonds we so believe in, we’ll race towards tomorrow.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
About PZ Meyers:
P.Z. Meyers is a “progressive” and will moderate unevenly and even censor or ban ideological opponents. He’s also a member of the Amanda Marcotte school of feminism – I think he even considers her a friend, I know he is a friend of Rebecca Watson.
Just because he’s right about evolution and has a family doesn’t preclude him being a cowardly jerk in the intellectual sense. He likes syncophants, when he is not busy being one. Personally, I find Richard Dawkins far more brave and intelligent and heck – SKEPTICAL.
Morticia
August 4, 2011
I think we should create a new evangelical campaign to convert the atheists who are sick of atheist girls.
How bout
“Christian girls love coffee”
Black_Rose
August 4, 2011
Utilitarianism is an code of ethics, since it promotes using utilitarian calculations and heuristics as a code of ethics. Regardless of its ability (or inability) to accurately quantify utility using the “utilitarian calculus”, it does rely on general principles that one should respect the preferences of entities (whether an organic or synthetic life) that either possess consciousness, interests, the ability to perceive itself as an individual with a unique past, present, and future, or the capacity to suffer. These general principles are the essence of utilitarian ethical theory, not the putative algorithms that quantify and calculate utility. In most mundane ethical situations, these principles yield qualitative results that obviate the need for precise quantification; it does not require any calculation to see how killing a person violates his/her interests, versus any perceive (universal) benefit from the killing.
Morticia
August 4, 2011
Svar- I must confess that I lied to you. When you asked me who was in my picture I told you it was the actress playing Morticia in the new Addams Family movie. That isn’t exactly true…it is a picture of me and sadly I have not yet been hired to play that role. :p
Clarence
August 4, 2011
Morticia?
Can I be your Racer X?
A Fan forever,
C.
Morticia
August 4, 2011
I figure no one will ever believe I have a big nose til I post a pic. So now I have proven I am not a liar. But for the sake of full-disclosure I will admit I over-exposed it to hide my skin flaws. In real life I have pores.
Black_Rose
August 4, 2011
What is the ” Amanda Marcotte school of feminism “. I am too lazy to research her work, and read about the nuances in the branches of feminism.
terri
August 4, 2011
Morticia,
You’re nowhere near as plain as you claim to be. Your face has character, sister. And you’re pretty. Who wants to be a cookie cutout of the Hollywood standard of perfection? BOOOORING!
Besides, you know who sets those standards anyway don’t you? If you don’t, I’ll reveal it next week.
Oh and check email. Since I’ve seen you and Alte, I guess you should see me.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
I’d define the Amanda Marcotte school of feminism as a gynocentric one that purports to be sex positive, but actually ends up blaming men for everything. Also Amanda Marcotte feminists have illegitimate babies with the Democratic Party whom they tend to wed and play the role of abused housewife. Lastly, such feminists are every bit as snooty and snotty as anyone you can think of and wear “Progressive” like its a cross to ward off vampires – and MRA’s and Republicans.
Chels
August 4, 2011
Although I dislike most men
You dislike most men, eh? What did they do to you BR?
alcestiseshtemoa
August 4, 2011
We have gone from religious puritanism to feminist puritanism in a few decades.
Women whom believe in slutwalks, autonomous choice, chasing “alphas” in their 20′s and 30′s, traditional marriage as oppression, sexual harassment charges and false rape allegations aren’t “puritans”. Far from it.
Well, there seems to be an almost infinite amount of things to discuss such as the skeptical community, sexism in geek cultures, the personalities of the people involved, feminism in “progressive movements” and etc.
Rebecca Watson does have a point that the skeptical, atheist community is full of men. While some liberal women lean towards atheism, skepticism and agnosticism many of them lean also towards New Age type of spirituality and particularly Eastern religions like Buddhism (and Hinduism).
Chels
August 4, 2011
Besides, you know who sets those standards anyway don’t you?
Women?
terri
August 4, 2011
Besides, you know who sets those standards anyway don’t you?
Women?
Stay tuned, Chels. That was a teaser. Although if you think about for a minute, it’ll probably come to you.
Rusty Shackleford
August 4, 2011
“Utilitarianism is an code of ethics, since it promotes using utilitarian calculations and heuristics as a code of ethics….
And is completely bunk, because you still have no way of determining what is “good” or “bad”, “positive” or “negative”, or what “interests” are worth. You have to reach outside of utilitarianism for those answers.
…it does not require any calculation to see how killing a person violates his/her interests, versus any perceive (universal) benefit from the killing.
Not to me, but I am a tradionalist Catholic with a strong moral code. His/her “interests” mean absolutely nothing if you have no belief system to evaluate those interests. Can you not kill them because we are all equals? Fine, that makes sense, but that’s still a belief, not a calculation. Yes, someone who has solid beliefs such as myself can do a cost-benefit analysis to figure out an appropriate decision. But I said before – that isn’t a code of ethics, that’s a decision-making tool.
In other words, Brendan is right. Which makes sense, because he is always right.
alcestiseshtemoa
August 4, 2011
*Libertarian ethics can also provide a satisfactory paradigm for formulate a sexual ethic.
Libertarian ethics is derived from liberalism and both tend to be a disaster in the long-run and on a macro-scale. They either work in the short-run or don’t work out at all.
alcestiseshtemoa
August 4, 2011
How bout
“Christian girls love coffee”
Cute. I prefer drinks like tea, chocolate and wine over coffee though.
Morticia
August 4, 2011
Thanks Terri. You look lovely in your pic.
Men seem to have very diverse tastes, which is counter to what some of the manosphere would claim. My husband prefers out-of-the-ordinary and seems to notice flaws less than I do.
We were watching television and I noticed the actress on a commercial had an unusually pointy nose. I pointed it out to him and he just laughed and said “I don’t even know how you notice that stuff”.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
Morticia:
It depends on what you mean by “diverse tastes”.
Younger, thin but not “concentration camp chick*, symmetrical features for the major facial features, that sort of thing ? No, not in any signficant numbers. But there is indeed tons of variation between men on distribution of fat, hair color/eye color, grooming preferences, dress preferences, decorative or not decorative, to freckle or not to freckle, and things of that nature. Also breast size/versus shape, and how important one views breast verus butt versus face – I’m a face/butt/lap man myself.
David Alexander
August 4, 2011
You look lovely in your pic.
What photo?
Morticia
August 4, 2011
DA- The one she sent in an email.
Morticia
August 4, 2011
Clarence- I think some men will settle for a woman they can “get it up” for and be willing to ignore other imperfections. I know quite a few unattractive women who have pretty decent looking husbands who I would think could do better if they wanted to.
Black_Rose
August 4, 2011
I will post this again about “preference utilitarianism” with some slight rewording:
“Regardless of its ability (or inability) to accurately quantify utility using the “utilitarian calculus”, utilitarian ethics relies on the general principle that one should respect the preferences of entities (whether an organic or synthetic lifeform) that either possess consciousness, interests, the ability to perceive itself as an individual with a unique past, present, and future, or the capacity to suffer. This general principle is the essence of utilitarian ethical theory, not the putative algorithms that quantify and calculate utility.”
Are you saying that it requires an explicit process of calculation to figure out that running down a random person GTA-style is wrong? Of course, this is a simple scenario merely to illustrate that most prosaic applications of utilitarian ethical theory do not require rigorous calculation. BTW, don’t Catholics like to mention the benefits of absolutist ethics that eschews “cost-benefit” analyses in many cases?
Rusty Shackleford
August 4, 2011
Are you saying that it requires an explicit process of calculation to figure out that running down a random person GTA-style is wrong?
No… that’s what Utilitarianism says.
Of course, this is a simple scenario merely to illustrate that most prosaic applications of utilitarian ethical theory do not require rigorous calculation.
But then you aren’t using Utilitarianism at all. You are using a belief system where random acts of violence are wrong. You can’t show that attacking some rando with a car is wrong with utilitarianism. You are literally taking it on faith that it’s probably wrong.
BTW, don’t Catholics like to mention the benefits of absolutist ethics that eschews “cost-benefit” analyses in many cases?
Very true. If time travel were possible, it would still be wrong to make Adolf Hitler’s mother have an abortion. I’m sure a utilitarian would disagree. However, say I receive a windfall and am trying to figure out how I want to tithe it – a utilitarian cost-benefit analysis performed in good faith isn’t a bad idea.
David Alexander
August 4, 2011
DA- The one she sent in an email.
This thread is useless without pics.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
DA:
to every woman on this site.
The “hottest” woman on this whole site is in that picture above, so why do you need pics?
terri
August 4, 2011
The “hottest” woman on this whole site is in that picture above,
Hard to compete with Barbie, Clarence, it’s true. Thank goodness I don’t have to.
Morticia
August 4, 2011
Here you go Clarence:
http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-ga9YO4iKLqw/TfBXnKWMbPI/AAAAAAAAAdE/PO6skhu2lp0/s640/Real_Barbie_Girl.jpg
terri
August 4, 2011
Is she real Morticia? She looks real, and then she doesn’t. I’m pretty sure is though.
Interesting!
Clarence
August 4, 2011
Morticia:
I like brunettes best, but I’d “hit it”. Then “hit it” again. Then again. Then I’d have a heart attack as I’m 40 and I literally couldn’t survive making out with that girl as many times as she deserves lol.
joanna
August 4, 2011
Oh my word! She’s awful! She looks absolutely sick. That girls need a hamburger and an entire chocolate cake.
David Alexander
August 4, 2011
Thank goodness I don’t have to.
Of course. Your competition is black Barbie.
Here you go Clarence
She very sexually attractive, yet awkward looking due to her contrasting looks. I’d hit it just because she has nails and a rack…
terri
August 4, 2011
She looks absolutely sick. That girls need a hamburger and an entire chocolate cake..
LOL, Joanna.
Seriously though. That woman looks really fake. The level of “perfection” is pretty creepy, to tell you the truth.
Of course, I’m a woman and Clarence And DA seem to find her quite beautiful and appealing.
Morticia
August 4, 2011
LOL. Well, Clarence..she probably wouldn’t survive either. She looks like she might be deprived of vital nutrients.
joanna
August 4, 2011
Perfection? That is not my idea of perfection. True, I’m a woman, but still…blech. I feel sorry for her.
joanna
August 4, 2011
I hope it’s a Halloween costume.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
Morticia:
You are right. I’d want to knock her up, but if I did, she might get hollowed out if she didn’t put on some weight. I wonder if the breasts are “enhanced” since usually to keep the rest of that figure she’s on a near (note I said near) anorexic diet, along with at least some exercise. To be honest she’s near perfect, but actually just a tad TOO thin for my tastes. I think ten pounds would do her some good. Anyway, IF she is real, that my dear ladies, is a 8.5 or 9, with points deducted only for hair color and lack of healthy weight.
terri
August 4, 2011
That is not my idea of perfection.
Mine either, Joanna. Which is why I put “perfection” in quotes above. Of course, we all know that Barbie is held up as the “standard” of feminine beauty: Blond hair, unrealistically tiny waist, big breasts, small everything else.
Real woman look nothing like this. Even the most beautiful of real women look nothing like this. Still, there are significant numbers of women who strive for it nonetheless.
Chels
August 4, 2011
I’d like to see a pic of both DA and Clarence.
terri
August 4, 2011
I’d like to see a pic of both DA and Clarence.
I think I’ve seen a pic of DA. Average guy. Don’t know why he’s not married yet, LOL. Clarence is a mystery.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
I have ONE pic I’d be willing to put on this site, but I don’t know how to upload it. I don’t intend to get an avatar, and I don’t want to be super easy to identify, as I’ll probably be writing on some controversial topics.
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
“Regardless of its ability (or inability) to accurately quantify utility using the “utilitarian calculus”, utilitarian ethics relies on the general principle that one should respect the preferences of entities (whether an organic or synthetic lifeform) that either possess consciousness, interests, the ability to perceive itself as an individual with a unique past, present, and future, or the capacity to suffer. This general principle is the essence of utilitarian ethical theory, not the putative algorithms that quantify and calculate utility.”
Gotta love that first sentence: Utilitarian ethics can’t determine whether utilitarianism is ethical…or why I should be concerned about any lifeform, regardless of its perceptions or lack thereof.
Sounds like the sort of ethics I might devise if I were interested in legitimizing PETA, abortion, and Ray Kurzweil’s animated corpse, and really wanted there to be no gods.
Morticia
August 4, 2011
Yeah, I saw DA too. He doesn’t look nearly as effeminate as he makes himself sound but I suppose that his real problem is that he is too picky and not that he is “sub-human”. He just uses false-humility to counterbalance his impossibly high standards for female perfection.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
Well:
It would be nice if some of the more religious people on here could honestly ask themselves what kind of ethics they would develop were they to suddenly decide there is no God and no Heaven or Hell. I’ve found I’ve kept at least about half of my conservative christian ones though I have different reasons for believing in them and though I no longer fear any Divine punishment.
Morticia
August 4, 2011
Clarence- just upload it to photobucket or something and then link to it.
Alte
August 4, 2011
I’ve met DA. He’s actually very charming. Single by stubbornness, I suspect.
Morticia, peer pressure.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
I will clarify:
I am agnostic but I tend to lean Deist. I’m skeptical of a human soul or any kind of afterlife, and I am almost 100 percent sure there is no “hell” at least as Christians think of it. I can’t find justice in torturing or tormenting anyone forever.
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
@ Clarence
It’s a condescension of the typical atheist sort to assume we haven’t been honest, or questioning of ourselves and our beliefs.
Morticia
August 4, 2011
Clarence- I’d just adopt typical girl ethics- “If it hurts my feelings it is bad”.
Alte
August 4, 2011
I’m standing right in front of my husband’s camera while he took a photo of something further away. That’s why I’m so bright; flash.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
Cane Caldo:
I never said you didn’t question your beliefs. Indeed, I didn’t specify anyone personally at all. However, the more religious one is , the less I’ve found they can justify most of their moral beliefs outside of some sort of appeal to authority. And so, I suggest that exercise. What kind of person one is, I suspect, is the sum total of what kind of things one would do given total impunity.
joanna
August 4, 2011
“…what kind of ethics they would develop were they to suddenly decide there is no God…”
If I was not a Believer, I think I’d probably seriously consider committing suicide. What is the point of being here? If I’m just some random accident then there is no reason to go on. If there is no higher standard for morality, then people can treat each other any way they want, because one person’s idea of morality is just as valid as anyone else’s. But, I believe God made this world, and he made me and he has a purpose for me and there is order and He has set a standard for morality, whether humans can live up to it or not.
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
“I am agnostic but I tend to lean Deist.”
If the perceived cruelty of He’ll is a stumbling block for you, how is the idea of a Super Scientist in the sky not? What’s he doing up/out there? I’ve never seen the Saw movies, but I’m familiar enough with the plot. That’s what Deism is: the belief that our creator is Jigsaw.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
Cane:
There are many potentially good reasons for a God to create intelligent life in a universe. Maybe we shouldn’t assume we understand these purposes, but I will say the world could easily be WORSE than it is. So the argument of evil cuts both ways.
Morticia
August 4, 2011
What kind of person one is, I suspect, is the sum total of what kind of things one would do given total impunity.
I disagree.
Think about this- if I had absolutely no objective sense of morality then I would probably adopt some form of utilitarianism where I always weighed the cost/benefit to my family and society and this might lead me to do things that I actually believe on a more subconscious level are wrong but which I can’t support through simple reasoning.
If I was poor I might think I have an obligation to whore myself to support my family. If I can’t figure out what is wrong with whoring except that I don’t want to do it, then I’d feel obligated to do it.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
http://s1129.photobucket.com/albums/m512/remoparallel/
Me.
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
If the perceived cruelty of He’ll is a stumbling block for you
My iPhone doesn’t believe in Hell either.
However, the more religious one is , the less I’ve found they can justify most of their moral beliefs outside of some sort of appeal to authority.
For myself, my appeal to authority is predicated on what I experience, and the elimination of the unlikely. In my experience life (existence) is good; for myself and for others. In my experience, nothing can come from nothing, so whatever created something, exists beyond the something. Hence, the supernatural. Is there something beyond that? I’ll let you know when I get there.
If you are serious about wanting a good argument for God, the best I can recommend (again) is “The Everlasting Man”, by Chesterton. I would suggest it in the same spirit that you suggest we read your evolution posts; which I do.
Chels
August 4, 2011
Not what I expected Clarence, I imagined you totally different.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
Morticia:
All you’ve just told me is that you would still love your family. My opinion of you has went up. After all it’s just as rational to become nihilistic and merely use people for one’s pleasures, whilst killing love, for love can be a weakness.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
Chels:
Now I AM interested.
Just what did you think I looked like?
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
There are many potentially good reasons for a God to create intelligent life in a universe.
I’ll play your game. Please name some.
I will say the world could easily be WORSE than it is. So the argument of evil cuts both ways.
How so? What’s worse than pain and death? If we were immortal, how would a life of never-ending pain not be Hell? If there was no pain, how would be alive?
Clarence
August 4, 2011
Wait. I bet I know!
You were thinking THIS : http://the-big-bang-theory.com/characters.Sheldon/
joanna
August 4, 2011
Or how about “Mere Christianity” by C.S. Lewis. Or nearly anything by Ravi Zacharias.
Morticia
August 4, 2011
I expected you to be blond, Clarence. I don’t know why.
Chels
August 4, 2011
It’s just that your personality doesn’t go with your look; I imagined you more like Leonard rather than Sheldon.
Chels
August 4, 2011
Ross from Friends comes closer to what I imagined.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
Cane Caldo:
Death may merely be eternal (or heck, near eternal) sleep. With no dreams. But then I don’t remember most of my dreams anyway.
Imagine this: a world where people had so little hope for improving their lives or being happy that only the concept of hope was alive (because a malevolent God made sure that it was hardly ever fullfilled), and God, wanting to maximize suffering let only the tiniest shiver of happiness exist in the world. Cut the human life span so that on average one will only live until one’s children are 15…say 30 as average age of death. Kids grow up just barely and then lose their parents. No grandparents. Make the resources of this world very scarce, so that people lived on the edge of starvation and hardly had rest or respite. Make the entire world this way.
Tell me that wouldn’t be worse. Then there’s the old Twilight Zone:
http://www.tv.com/the-twilight-zone/a-nice-place-to-visit/episode/12612/recap.html
If God was out to get us, things could easily be worse.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
Chels:
Hmm..I do look a bit more like Ross than Leonard, though I sometimes wear glasses. I’m not as thin as either man, and I’m not as tall as Ross. I’m 5’8. You weren’t that far off. Some people say I look mischievous in that pic I put on Photobucket. I tend to agree.
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
Imagine this: a world where people had so little hope for improving their lives or being happy that only the concept of hope was alive (because a malevolent God made sure that it was hardly ever fullfilled), and God, wanting to maximize suffering let only the tiniest shiver of happiness exist in the world. Cut the human life span so that on average one will only live until one’s children are 15…say 30 as average age of death. Kids grow up just barely and then lose their parents. No grandparents. Make the resources of this world very scarce, so that people lived on the edge of starvation and hardly had rest or respite. Make the entire world this way.
I don’t see how this differs from our world. I have kids now, and sometimes I reflect that–not only am I going to die–but my children will too. MY CHILDREN? How is that understandable? It has truly kept me up nights. Their situation is hopeless, from the material perspective. I don’t give a damn if it’s 30 years, or 150. You’ve described the world we live in now.
In fact, the situation you describe is EXACTLY what is described in Genesis. We will die. Our children will die. We have to work our whole lives just to eat.
So, I’m telling you, that’s not worse.
Morticia
August 4, 2011
All the suffering in the world makes sense to me from the perspective of the parent. The hoped for end result in letting my children make some mistakes is that my children will develop an enlightened conscience that makes doing the wrong thing naturally repulsive.
Part of the process of redemption, or in secular terms- of transcending flawed human nature into a better species… is knowing the consequences of sin. Salvation History is humanities “childhood” of sorts. We are learning the consequences of our actions so that when we “grow up” we know from experience that perfect obedience to our Creator is the only way to truly love mankind.
I can’t think of any other worldview full of as much hope or one that gives the pain and suffering in the world more meaning and purpose. My faith is an extension of my love for humanity..not just a personal hope for a better afterlife.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
Cane:
That’s because you don’t value love.
As for purpose? It’s presumptuous to think, but perhaps some higher mental organizing principle or something as time and evolution (both physical and technological) go on.
joanna
August 4, 2011
“not only am I going to die–but my children will too. MY CHILDREN? How is that understandable? It has truly kept me up nights. Their situation is hopeless, from the material perspective. I don’t give a damn if it’s 30 years, or 150. You’ve described the world we live in now.”
This. What kind of a world have I brought my kids into? It’s hurts and seems hopeless. Except there is hope in the Creator.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
What I’m saying is that IF there is a God, then we are all part of some plan EVEN IF YOU OR I don’t understand it.
Our lives still have meaning, even if only as representations of the human race, which, too, might be fullfilling a plan. Of course I value love, so that emotion means something to me in and of itself and is worth living life for.
And if there is no God, no plan, then perhaps we could try to make some things better for our descendents, make the ones we love happy..how is that such a bad life?
joanna
August 4, 2011
In which way has Cane indicated that he doesn’t value love?
joanna
August 4, 2011
“And if there is no God, no plan, then perhaps we could try to make some things better for our descendents, make the ones we love happy..how is that such a bad life?”
What for? So they can live and work to eat and then die? What’s the purpose?
The Deuce
August 4, 2011
Okay, my scattershot thoughts on this whole ordeal:
1) Rebecca Watson is not pretty. I repeat, not pretty. She’s on the lower end of plain, and that’s being generous. Don’t let her fool you with weird angles, lighting tricks, and Photoshop airbrush. It’s true that she probably looks better than Amanda Marcotte. She also looks better than a bloodless female corpse with a manjaw. But I repeat myself.
2) Perhaps my favorite humorous takedown of this whole ordeal is the one Taki’s Mag did.
3) Rebecca Watson doesn’t mind being “sexually objectified”, as the sexy (and I use that word *very* loosely here) public photos she did promoting the atheist meetup should make clear. Those of us who have learned about Game shouldn’t have too much trouble diagnosing what’s going through this chick’s head. She wants to get lots of attention, and be seen as sexy and inviting in general, in the extremely remote case that an alpha male (or whatever crime against nature passes for one in skeptic conferences) shows up, but she doesn’t want to be pestered by the dweeby, feminized, low-status gammas that actually show up at these things.
In other words, as usual for the narcissistic, pampered, modern feminist, she wants to turn men on, but she also wants complete say over when, how, and whether they’re allowed to show that they’re turned on. If it had been Richard Dawkins in that elevator inviting her to tea, she would’ve followed him back to that hotel room and barred the door, and he would’ve had to escape through the window to keep her off his wrinkly old dick.
Finally, acting all offended and raising a big stink about what happened in the elevator allows her to get even more attention and sympathy from feminized, white-knight bitches like PZ Myers, and to further establish her feminist bonafides, while simultaneously broadcasting to the world that men find her attractive! Notice how she immediately transmuted an invitation to tea into a proposition for sex, and eventually into rape! She’s just so stunning that men lose control of themselves and are overcome by their animalistic urge to ravish her, you see!
4) While I will be among the first to tell you that Richard Dawkins is a joke and an intellectual fraud, and while I think his immeasurable self-regard caused him to slip up and make an ass of himself in this case, it’s absolutely hilarious that a substantial portion of the “skeptical community” has decided that this is the end of his career, and that it totally undercuts his credibility as a rational person. I would’ve thought that it would have been his claims that religion is child abuse. Or the way he diminished the seriousness of child molestation. Or his taking part in a documentary that claimed that Jesus didn’t exist at all. Or his bizarre, high-profile attempt to have the Pope arrested. Or his courting of the Rational Response Squad. Or that sham university scam he helped set up. Or his atheist summer camp. Or his terrible “Ultimate 747″ argument. Or or or…. But no, the thing that proves that Dawkins isn’t a *real* skeptic, the thing that places him beneath contempt and beyond the bounds of civil discourse, is his failure to show sufficient feminist outrage that some dork asked some skep-bitch to tea in an elevator! And this is a community that prides itself on how “rational” it is!
5) This whole thing shows how ridiculous the “freethinking” moniker usually is. If this is what “free” thought is, I’d hate to see what thought enslaved to feminist dogma is like. These people pride themselves on having freed their minds from the supposed strictures of religious taboo, and yet they turn around and tether themselves to the totally arbitrary dogmas of political correctness. The thoughts and dialogue they’re “allowed” to engage in is more constrained, stilted, and cordoned off by unquestioned taboos than that of any religious person I know. For most of them, it’s clearly something other than “reason” or “free thought” that led them to where they are. As that Chesterton pseudo-quote goes, those who cease to believe in God usually don’t believe in nothing, but in anything. People are innately religious and will look for their transcendent purpose in something, and these “rationalists” are deeply emotionally attached to a religion of their own making.
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
I’ve just read the synopsis of the Twilight Zone episode, and I have to say: I’m baffled. Your post has laid out the EXACT case of Christianity. What’s baffling is how you can ponder these things and yet not see that the story of the Bible is overflowing with Truth. He who has eyes…
Have eyes, Clarence! Have eyes!
Clarence
August 4, 2011
Because if they can’t live forever he doesn’t value the time he DOES have with them, Joanna. He can find no joy in it, like finding out that a car one loves will eventually break down and become too expensive to repair. So why buy a car?
I admit it can be a shock to look death and nihilism in the face. I’ve done so and I’m not dead inside. My advice to cane is to be the best father and husband he can be, live his life, and live his faith. In the end, even I trust it all does have some meaning but regardless I’d rather make the world or universe a better place by being decent to good people.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
Well:
I believe that if we can avoid destroying ourselves humanity’s destiny is in the stars.
I believe things and people will change and continue to change.
I believe that if there is a God at all there is a reason that there is intelligent life in the universe.
Doesn’t the Bible say that God was lonely?
Morticia
August 4, 2011
Call me greedy but I don’t want to make the people I love happy for a few good healthy years. I want them to be happy for eternity.
joanna
August 4, 2011
That’s not true. You can be sad that they will die, or suffer horrible things and still value your time with them and love them and find joy in them. It’s not one or the other.
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
Cane:
That’s because you don’t value love.
Pssh. Cracka, please.
As for purpose? It’s presumptuous to think, but perhaps some higher mental organizing principle or something as time and evolution (both physical and technological) go on.
This is the Jigsaw Super Scientist scenario I already mentioned. How is the cruelty of Hell worse than this–particularly in light of the value of love? Jigsaw creates us, imbues us with love, and then chicken scratches the infinite tablet? This is your argument against Christianity?
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
Because if they can’t live forever he doesn’t value the time he DOES have with them, Joanna. He can find no joy in it, like finding out that a car one loves will eventually break down and become too expensive to repair. So why buy a car?
You’re being idiotic and malicious now, because your argument is weak.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
Cane:
I made no argument against Christianity. I merely report on life as I see it.
Good day.
The Deuce
August 4, 2011
Morticia:
You are a lot better looking than you had lead me to expect.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
Morticia:
I like your type of “greed”. I hope you are right. But all you can honestly do is make them as happy as you can and the rest is beyond you or I.
Morticia
August 4, 2011
Jesus cried at death even though He knew of the afterlife. Death is suffering and suffering sucks..even if better things are to come.
joanna
August 4, 2011
Excellent point, Morticia.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
The Deuce:
Don’t make me get all “Racer X” on your butt.
Morticia’s fine bootay is mine! Lol.
The Deuce
August 4, 2011
Btw, I got a big ole comment in moderation. Anyone care to let it free?
Morticia
August 4, 2011
I usually consider “big nose” and “pretty” to be mutually exclusive terms. Nobody ever puts on their dating profile that they are looking for a girl with a giant snozz.
The Racer X comments go over my head. I must have missed something.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
Oh my.
Morticia , ask Alte about Racer X. Let’s just say he was the “wrong kind” of fanboy for a married woman who takes her vows seriously.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
*Does a happy dance that my post got over 100 comments even if more than half are about religious philosophy or various bootay comparisons*
Chels
August 4, 2011
Your soul/spirit doesn’t die, just your Earthly body. And if you believe in what the Bible says, then you know that after death, a much better life awaits you, with no pain, no worries, etc…
So what’s better–sticking around on Earth and working, being sick, being in pain or being in Heaven with rainbows, angels and butterflies?
I remember my grandmother explaining it to me like a rite of passage. She’s 80 and frail, but not afraid to die because she knows that something better awaits her there (hopefully she goes to heaven and doesn’t spend some time in the purgatory before).
This whole convo went over my head though :s
Morticia
August 4, 2011
The Deuce- Nice comment. I think this part is probably right on:
In other words, as usual for the narcissistic, pampered, modern feminist, she wants to turn men on, but she also wants complete say over when, how, and whether they’re allowed to show that they’re turned on. If it had been Richard Dawkins in that elevator inviting her to tea, she would’ve followed him back to that hotel room and barred the door, and he would’ve had to escape through the window to keep her off his wrinkly old dick.
Another evangelical t-shirt idea. “Come to the light side, we have coffee”
Alte
August 4, 2011
YOUR TITLE WAS SCREAMING AT ME, Clarence.
Morticia
August 4, 2011
Evangelical tshirt #3 = They don’t serve coffee in hell.
Morticia
August 4, 2011
Christian Girls vs. Atheist Girls
Atheist Girls are oppressed by your offer of coffee
Christian Girls make your coffee
Clarence
August 4, 2011
Morticia:
“Christian Girls vs. Atheist Girls
Atheist Girls are oppressed by your offer of coffee
Christian Girls make your coffee. ”
I’d totally buy the T-Shirt.
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
I’m going to put a sign over our bedroom door: Welcome to Starbucks.
joanna
August 4, 2011
LOL! Very funny.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
The Deuce:
Very good post. I like Taki mag’s takedown as well, though mine is far more updated. In fact, Richard Dawkins, is paying for daycare in order to help women attend these events, and even Rebecca Watson had to give him props for that. Plus, her little “boycott” of his speech had very few participants. I think he’ll be fine.
Anyway, the Taki piece had me in stitches of laughter. Thanks.
terri
August 4, 2011
If Alte, with all her mysteriousness, put her pic up, I feel like it’s kind of weird to be the only hostess who is a mystery. So I used my homely face as my avatar.
*sigh*
And yes, Alte, you do look much “brighter” in that pic than the first that I saw of you.
And Clarence, I thought you’d be older.
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
Alte, your pic looks like Ann Curry.
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
Clarence, you look like Christopher Hitchens
http://cdn.thedailybeast.com/content/dailybeast/videos/2009/10/12/christopher-hitchens-slams-nobel.img.167.112.1307382825702.jpg
Alte
August 4, 2011
I look like a ghost in all of my indoor pics, but I look more olive-y in the outdoors ones. I prefer those for that reason. Some color, please. LOL.
Alte
August 4, 2011
Ann Curry… We do look a lot alike, actually. I have green eyes, though.


Her skin bleaches out indoors, as well. It’s the flash.
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
Here’s a better Clarence-like Hitchens photo
http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_HZc7gUUMY0c/Rl7nBowmhkI/AAAAAAAAAJo/LvAxqBE5JPs/s400/hitchens11lv.jpg
Morticia
August 4, 2011
I find judging attractiveness to be tricky.
There are several methods. You could start at 10 and then deduct points for imperfections. When i do this I end in the negatives on the 1-10 scale.
The other method is to judge ones own attractiveness by the attractiveness of the guys who hit on you. I seem to get hit on by those I would judge to be in the 5-7 range. An 8 has happened a few times but is very rare. I could then put myself in the middle as a 6.
It seems that one manosphere theme is that women over-estimate their attractiveness. How then should a woman define themselves so as to be as accurate as possible?
Clarence
August 4, 2011
Morticia:
The second method you mention is probably best. If decent or halfway decent guys hit on you, chances are you are decent yourself. If it’s mostly “hot” guys you are probably hot yourself. Where this method could go wrong as if you have unusual tastes, so you might want to consult whether the guys hitting on you would be hot to your girlfriends or the larger culture and adjust from there if you find you have unusual tastes.
The first method in my opinion is subject to both wishful thinking AND low self esteem to result in either too high or too low a “number”.
That being said unless you are extremely fat, on the bad edge of 40 and with a mustache and beard, there will probably be at least some male who finds you attractive.
terri
August 4, 2011
This pic was actually already on my blog in an old post. Except the for the fact that I was 8 months pregnant when it was taken, it’s pretty much me.
At least I’m 40 with NO wrinkles. Not even the faintest of crows’ feet. That’s something, I guess.
LOL.
joanna
August 4, 2011
My picture is of my gray hair. I’m so proud.
Alte
August 4, 2011
The other method is to judge ones own attractiveness by the attractiveness of the guys who hit on you.
I don’t know how reliable that method would be. I get hit on by a lot of really gorgeous guys because they like unusual-looking women, but I’m not nearly as good-looking as they are. You’d have to take off major points for “exotic”.
I give myself a 7, which is basically a 10 in nerd-circles. LOL. That’s why I’m so vain. I think I get bumped up over a 6 because of my eyes. My teeth aren’t aging very well, though. And pores, too. So maybe a 6, after all.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
Cane Caldo:
That second pic of Hitchens looks like me if I added about 50 more pounds and ten years. Remember , Hitchens is a heavy drinker. I hardly ever even drink enough to get tipsy and usually less than twice a year.
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
I’ve never seen so many lines hit the water this far from a lake.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
So Alte:
What do you think of my pic?
How did YOU think I’d look?
Morticia
August 4, 2011
Alte- but if attractiveness is based on how attractive you are to the opposite sex then wouldn’t something like an exotic feature give you a genuine bump and not just a perceived bump?
Clarence
August 4, 2011
By the way, Cane:
Here’s who I think YOU probably look like based on that mouth:
http://www.aveleyman.com/ActorCredit.aspx?ActorID=16102
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
@ Clarence
I know. I tried to find a picture that was in the same sort of pose. He often has the same disheveled hair, and you have the same shape face. When I first saw your pic I thought of Hitchens straightaway. But I couldn’t find a young one with the devil-may-hair.
And while he is a prominent anti-theist–in fact I hate most of his idea–I’m a big fan of his words. He’s a tremendous writer. Easily a favorite.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
He just died!
Hightower died!
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
Haha! You’re actually pretty close, except that cheater has a better tan. I am tall though, a tad over 6’4″, and I don’t talk too much at work.
Alte
August 4, 2011
Morticia,
I don’t think it should really count, as it isn’t really a “universal” thing. If I were in Mexico or Indonesia, I’d probably rate a 6. In Germany, I’m more like an 8. Men falling all over themselves, but it’s just because I stand out.
I thought you’d be blond, Clarence.
Alte
August 4, 2011
I don’t get hit on much in the States, in fact. I’m more like a 3 here, apparently. LOL
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
They do have a pic of Hightower and I side-by-side.
http://www.wearysloth.com/Gallery/ActorsS/16102-15043.gif
Morticia
August 4, 2011
Well if we deduct for imperfections I am screwed, but that may be because I will deduct more points for things I don’t like (I.E deduct 3 points for a big nose, 5 points for small breasts) when the guy looking at me may only deduct 1 point for my nose, or 1 point for my breasts…if he cares about those things at all. Or it could be the opposite..someone like DA would give large breasts a lot of extra points even if it comes with extra weight (see Megan McCain) but someone like Kate Hudson he sees as unremarkable when other men would rate her an 8-9.
This whole thing makes my head spin. I think I will just give up. lol.
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
Zzzzzzzziiiiiirrrrrrrhhhh… Plop!
Alte
August 4, 2011
DA takes off points for my clothes and lack of decoration. My husband gives me extra points for the fact that I always look about the same (i.e. I don’t need any decoration). The point system doesn’t really work, I think.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
Seriously:
Bubba Smith died yesterday. I wasn’t home much of the day and must have missed that on the news
What a terrible coincidence. I’ll always remember Bubba Smith as HighTower and that security guard on Married With Children. RIP, dude.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
Maybe we think your “big nose” gives you character and is easy to kiss? Maybe you should ask hubby, Paige. You might be surprised
joanna
August 4, 2011
All I care about is that my husband think I’m hot. I think I’ve been hit on once in the last 12 years (by someone other than my husband, who hits on me all the time), but my husband constantly has women vying for his attention. Especially if he’s out with any of our little girls. It’s bizarre. I thought women didn’t like men with kids.
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
DA takes off points for my clothes and lack of decoration. My husband gives me extra points for the fact that I always look about the same (i.e. I don’t need any decoration). The point system doesn’t really work, I think.
Haha! SO typical: I can’t find the score, so there is no score. This is why Clarence’s suggestion to judge it off your proposed suitors is a good one: men can use the point system quite well. Women get bogged down in the details, and lose sense of proportion and probability. (I know, shocker.) Which is also why you can’t judge yourselves accurately.
Svar
August 4, 2011
Right-wing Nietzschean nihilists > atheists, any day, every day. Men like Brett Stevens, Alex Birch, or Frank Azurro are better at making sound, logical points than any of the New Atheists who are basically liberals/marxists. Liberalism and marxism are shit piles.
terri
August 4, 2011
All I care about is that my husband think I’m hot.
This. I think the 1-10 thing is kind of silly in that it boxes men in as much as it does women. How many men really like a certain women (a lot) but back away because she doesn’t fit the “standard?” What will his boys say about him liking this girl with wide set eyes or who is a size 12?
The manosphere is rife with this kids of stuff. Let every man decide for himself what’s hot to him and what’s not.
Factor in the wholly unrealistic standards that are pushed as “normal” and it borders on ridiculous. My husband likes curves and good skin. Those are the things he notices first. The fact that I wasn’t a size 6 didn’t even register. In fact he said the first time he saw me he thought I was too skinny. I thought he was crazy!
Svar
August 4, 2011
Morticia, I suspected that was picture of you. I was right, you are unnecessarily hard on yourself.
terri
August 4, 2011
Haha! SO typical: I can’t find the score, so there is no score.
No Cane. The point is that your scale and another man’s scale is different. This is subjective, and can be no other way. Why should one man subject himself to your standards when choosing a woman for himself?
It’s so highly subjective that Alte is right, it doesn’t work. Not really.
Svar
August 4, 2011
Terri, most guys, including those outside of the manosphere, use the 1-10 scale.
terri
August 4, 2011
Terri, most guys, including those outside of the manosphere, use the 1-10 scale.
No Svar, not really. They don’t. They know what they like and what they don’t. Of course, I’m a bit older as is my husband than guys in your age range. Maybe I’m out of my element here.
I think it’s sad that you youngsters are unable to choose for yourself what you like and what you don’t in a woman without some arbitrary scale imposed by someone else.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
Terri:
Look at my initial points as to how Rebecca Watson looks in my post.
Consider that while I did revise my opinion of her a bit downward after further thought I still gave her a five. Even after The Deuces photos:
She’s still “hot enough”. If she had a pleasant personality rather than being a stuck up feminist prig, and if she wanted a child or two I might value her as a wife. Thinking of her naked still excites me, and I’d have no problem …”doing the deed”. The difference with her is that unlike a truly attractive woman she only becomes “boner ready” if she’s naked, instead of oozing sexiness through her clothes.
Now, are my standards unrealistic? Some here are probably puking thinking of having sex with RW.
A Lady
August 4, 2011
Women love men with 3-5 kids scampering around even more than a guy with 1-2. You’re not a babydaddy if all five of your children are scampering around the park with you. It’s a DHV to have four or five kids with one woman. Around the 6-7 number of kids, though, many women stop seeing it as a sign of status and start seeing it as a sign of Cletus. But sufficiently masculine men can pull off numbers as high as 9-10 kids. But in general the tipping point from status to cletus is between 5 and 7.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
Terri:
Thousands of people voted on Roissy’s “Hot or Not” polls and assigned them numbers from 1 to 10.
There was a vast amount of agreement at the ends of the scale, such as a 1 or 2 versus a 9 or 10. It was the middle scores where there were the most variation but even there roughly 8 out of ten assigned the same number, and most who didn’t were within one point either way.
That means something.
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
This. I think the 1-10 thing is kind of silly in that it boxes men in as much as it does women. How many men really like a certain women (a lot) but back away because she doesn’t fit the “standard.”
The manosphere is rife with this kids of stuff. Let every man decide for himself what’s hot to him and what’s not.
Factor in the wholly unrealistic standards that are pushed as “normal” and it borders on ridiculous.
No, it doesn’t, and you don’t have to get self-righteous about it. I don’t know any guy that I don’t consider a sociopath who says “I’m only going to date or marry a 7 or better!” We do decide for ourselves, except the truly vain.
The unrealistic standards on women are pushed by gay men, and other women. The only exception is boobs, which many, many men will tell you don’t matter much. Anyway, fake boobs look better clothed.
terri
August 4, 2011
Even after The Deuces photos.
In the second of “the Deuce photos” she looked kind of pretty. Plain, but pretty.
Maybe I’m too old and too mature for this conversation anyway. Svar’s comment solidified that for me.
The Deuce
August 4, 2011
Here you go Clarence:
http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-ga9YO4iKLqw/TfBXnKWMbPI/AAAAAAAAAdE/PO6skhu2lp0/s640/Real_Barbie_Girl.jpg
That’s actually pretty horrifying, imo. It’s not that she’s too skinny for me, or that her breasts are too big. It’s just the total unnaturalness of the whole thing. The makeup, bleached hair, and (probably) veneers creep me out in an Uncanny Valley sort of way. As for the boobs, it’s not that I can’t appreciate them that big on a girl that thin, it’s that they look so… unlifelike. I’d say there’s a 99.99% chance they’re fake, not just because of their size relative to the rest of her, but also because the rest of her is so fake-looking too, and because of their unnatural perkiness and spherical-ness. And I *hate* fake boobs, especially when they stretch out the skin and the woman doesn’t have enough natural padding over them to make it look somewhat like a biological structure. Presumably she looks like she’s got two basketballs bolted to her chest when the shirt comes off.
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
Anyway, fake boobs ONLY look better clothed.
terri
August 4, 2011
The unrealistic standards on women are pushed by gay men, and other women
This. Not straight men, astonishingly. I’m glad you recognize that. I wish more men did.
I didn’t mean to get “self-righteous about it.” I just really believe that every man is capable of deciding what floats his own boat without a scale to guide him.
How is that self-righteous?
Clarence
August 4, 2011
Terri:
So I take it you agree that my standards and number assigning are rather fair?
A Lady
August 4, 2011
She’s not pretty, she’s just not ugly. She is ‘of fair looks’. We live in a culture where people seem to feel that if a girl isn’t pustulently ugly, she must needs be ‘kinda pretty’. There is room for plain!
terri
August 4, 2011
She’s not pretty, she’s just not ugly.
Point taken, Lady. I think you’re right.
I hope there’s room for plain, since I’m pretty plain myself. But like Joanna said, the husband likes it,
.
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
The point is that your scale and another man’s scale is different. This is subjective, and can be no other way. Why should one man subject himself to your standards when choosing a woman for himself?
You’re not understanding how this works.
Let me ask you something: Should Rembrandt’s “Nightwatch” and Beethoven’s 5th Symphony be considered classics?
Svar
August 4, 2011
“Anyway, fake boobs ONLY look better clothed.”
You’re right. They look amazing clothed, but are disgusting unclothed. I don’t like ‘em fake.
The Deuce
August 4, 2011
Wierd. I’m not able to see my own comments for some reason.
terri
August 4, 2011
Should Rembrandt’s “Nightwatch” and Beethoven’s 5th Symphony be considered classics?
Yes, but in different categories of course.
Please elaborate. My denseness is taking over.
The Deuce
August 4, 2011
Hmm, I saw my last comment, where I commented on not being able to see my own comments. Is anybody else able to see my previous comment on “real life Barbie”?
Svar
August 4, 2011
“No Svar, not really. They don’t. They know what they like and what they don’t. Of course, I’m a bit older as is my husband than guys in your age range. Maybe I’m out of my element here.”
I meant guys around my age do.
“I think it’s sad that you youngsters are unable to choose for yourself what you like and what you don’t in a woman without some arbitrary scale imposed by someone else.”
Well, we do choose for ourselves. We just then stick a number on ‘er.
Alte
August 4, 2011
It was spammed.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
The Deuce:
I see your last two comments and your long comment, but I don’t see a comment by you about “Real life Barbie”.
The Deuce
August 4, 2011
I can see it now. Alte just let it through I guess
Alte
August 4, 2011
This is why Clarence’s suggestion to judge it off your proposed suitors is a good one: men can use the point system quite well.
Nah, going by that I’d have to be at least a 9. I’m good looking, but I’m not super-gorgeous, or anything.
I think they’re mostly attracted to my personality and unusual appearance. I look friendly and approachable, and I think that makes a huge difference.
Also, I have an enormous rack and a small waist. LOL
Clarence
August 4, 2011
Ahh!
Now I see your post Deuce. Apparently Alte rescued it. Hmm. She doesn’t hit “uncanny valley” for me. Her eyes aren’t THAT big. Interesting. But it just goes to show that even the very best looking girls are bound to have a hater sometimes and even the awfullest looking girls a fan.
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
How did you and millions of others decide that one painting or another is great? How do you and millions of others dare applaud and pass on a love of Beethoven over My Sharona?
The goal of the 1-10 score is not to divine or bestow the precise number of any given woman. That is impossible. But it’s pretty easy to be accurate about it.
Is it precise to say that Nightwatch is the greatest painting ever? No. But you’d be in the ballpark. Is Clarence precise to say that Watson is a 5? No, I say she’s a 4. But we’re both in the ballpark. And men are surprisingly stable in our judgments… even if we’re wrong, we’re wrong in the same manner.
I’d bet money that if you asked your older wiser husband if he could rank women purely on their physical features, on a scale of 1 to 10, he could. Does he value spiritual, mental, and emotional traits above that? I’d bet money on that, too.
Alte
August 4, 2011
My husband would be horrified by that Barbie chick, and not just because he doesn’t like blond hair. She looks like she’s made out of plastic (hence the name, after all). He likes “natural beauty”. He doesn’t usually like for me to wear makeup, for instance.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
Gals and Guys:
I remember reading a study recently (I’ll have to look for it) that showed that slight imperfections added to the perception of beauty. Let me explain about the girl I first kissed. She had perfect skin, almost literally, was blonde and thin. But she had one thing she hated: a small pimple on her left cheek. It wasn’t hairy, it wasn’t disgusting looking at all. It was a small little pimple and I loved it. It humanized her.
Alte
August 4, 2011
The point being Cane, that the men who hit on me are often extremely good-looking. Some professional models, for instance. The cardiologist was so gorgeous that my mother called me up and told me to marry him. LOL And she usually only likes dark-haired men.
terri
August 4, 2011
My husband would be horrified by that Barbie chick, and not just because he doesn’t like blond hair.
LOL. Mine too! Are our husbands irregular in that regard? Most of the men here think she’s good looking.
For the record, my husband sees the natural beauty in women across the spectrum. The two things he is constant on is skin and curves.
And yes, he has no problem saying to me, “That’s a pretty woman.” And no, I don’t get offended. But by “pretty” he means good complexion and an hourglass figure. To another man, that may mean blond hair and big breasts. Yet another may take it to mean long legs.
So while I generally agree that prettiness or ugliness is universally agreed upon, it’s not set in stone. My hubby would say Barbie chick isn’t attractive in any way. He’d find her creepy and the excessive makeup a major turn-off.
Svar
August 4, 2011
“Indeed. In her “check me out I’m so hot, but don’t you dare objectify me” glamour shots, she’s marginally attractive. The more candid shots I’ve seen… yeah, I wouldn’t touch her with Svar’s penis.”
Haha, thanks Smooth T. The thought of sticking it in her makes it shrivel up inside.
“I tend to agree with the more hardcore manosphere posters who think the whole brouhaha was started simply because she wanted to advertise that she had been hit upon.”
You know, that’s probably it.
Stadt-Land-Fluss
August 4, 2011
”My husband would be horrified by that Barbie chick, and not just because he doesn’t like blond hair.”
The way you describe it usually, sounds like a journey to Iceland would be like torture for him.
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
Terri, this is Alte self-deprecating for the benefit of you ladies, and to preserve a semblance of humility.
Nah, going by that I’d have to be at least a 9. I’m good looking, but I’m not super-gorgeous, or anything.
I think they’re mostly attracted to my personality and unusual appearance. I look friendly and approachable, and I think that makes a huge difference.
Then, vice pays it’s tribute
Also, I have an enormous rack and a small waist. LOL
Where she reveals why she’s a 9. Ann Curry is very pretty. Have you even seen a woman who wasn’t gorgeous on a morning television program? We all wake up to normal-looking people every day–who wants to see that?
Alte
August 4, 2011
My husband is extremely picky. I’ve noted that he basically rates women on the Alte Scale. Alte=10, and women are ranked according to how much they look like me.
Love is thankfully blind as a bat.
Alte
August 4, 2011
I don’t actually think Ann Curry is very pretty, actually. I’d give her a 7. I think Kim Kardashian is a 9.
Alte
August 4, 2011
I am not a 9, Cane. Ask DA and Deuce, they’ve seen me. (No, guys, I won’t be insulted. I do have some perspective).
Svar
August 4, 2011
“LOL. Mine too! Are our husbands irregular in that regard? Most of the men here think she’s good looking.”
I find the image to be aesthetically appealing, but she look way too fake for me. Her hair seems fake and plastic as well, like that of a doll. Also, her face is shiny as well. Gives off a plastic vibe.
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
My husband is extremely picky. I’ve noted that he basically rates women on the Alte Scale. Alte=10, and women are ranked according to how much they look like me.
Your husband is wise. I do the same thing with my wife.
I have a similar flaw. If my wife says some twerp is good looking, I frown. Say, Leonardo DiCaprio, or Billy Zane. Luckily, that’s rare. However; she does like all the men in The 13th Warrior, exccept Banderas. I smile.
joanna
August 4, 2011
“He doesn’t usually like for me to wear makeup, for instance.”
Neither does my husband. When he sees me putting it on he asks in an incredulous voice, “You’re putting on MAKE-UP???”
terri
August 4, 2011
Terri, this is Alte self-deprecating for the benefit of you ladies, and to preserve a semblance of humility.
LOL, that train has long left the station. No one who spends any amount of time here would color Alte modest about herself. At least she’s up front about her fabulousness.
Then, vice pays it’s tribute
It always does, but I find it endearing. She isn’t playing the false modesty card.
When I say I’m painfully average, I really mean it. But my husband is very good-looking, so I figure if he married me, that must count for something (and I mean that too). I tease him that it must have been for my mind. He assures me that was only the icing on the cake.
In the end though, I’m not all that interested in what random men think of my looks. That door shut 17 years ago. The effort I put into looking my best, I do for SAM.
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
““LOL. Mine too! Are our husbands irregular in that regard? Most of the men here think she’s good looking.””
She looks like a robot, or a very well-preserved corpse.
joanna
August 4, 2011
“My hubby would say Barbie chick isn’t attractive in any way. He’d find her creepy and the excessive makeup a major turn-off.”
What you said.
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
@Alte
I don’t actually think Ann Curry is very pretty, actually. I’d give her a 7.
She’s an 8, I think, and older at that. Anyway, I wasn’t endorsing your score, I just wasn’t going to change it as I haven’t seen you, and it was irrelevant anyway.
@Terri
When I say I’m painfully average, I really mean it. But my husband is very good-looking, so I figure if he married me, that must count for something (and I mean that too). I tease him that it must have been for my mind. He assures me that was only the icing on the cake.
In the end though, I’m not all that interested in what random men think of my looks. That door shut 17 years ago. The effort I put into looking my best, I do for SAM.
This. Love is transforming. It can even change your vision.
Alte
August 4, 2011
I’ve never been accused of modesty before, whether real or false. LOL
Chels
August 4, 2011
Seriously? I thought the religious folk is supposed to be deep and all, and not shallow.
Svar
August 4, 2011
I don’t find real life Barbie to be either creepy or sexually attractive. However, I do find her to be appealing.
joanna
August 4, 2011
“@Terri
When I say I’m painfully average, I really mean it. But my husband is very good-looking, so I figure if he married me, that must count for something (and I mean that too). I tease him that it must have been for my mind. He assures me that was only the icing on the cake.
In the end though, I’m not all that interested in what random men think of my looks. That door shut 17 years ago. The effort I put into looking my best, I do for SAM.
This. Love is transforming. It can even change your vision.”
Yup.
Bike Bubba
August 4, 2011
Apart from the question of what we look like, one thing I can state clearly about the Watson/Dawkins kerfuffle is that the “bright” community (what some atheists started calling themselves when the rest of us caught on to “freethinkers”) is incapable of what they claim is their hallmark; reasoned thinking. Instead of admitting the obvious–yes, men approaching woman at 4am after a night out at the bar are creepy, women who stay at the bars until closing time are begging for trouble (as are men)–it got to be a nice little hissy fit.
Those “dims” know, of course, that we’re liable to nonlinear thinking, so we don’t need to worry about this as much. But for the rationalist, unbelieving “brights,” they have, ironically, a crisis of….faith?
Abut if we must discuss looks, I’m a ten to my wife, a zero to the rest of you, and that’s just fine with me. :^) I’ve actually got a head shot on my blog if anyone cares.
terri
August 4, 2011
Yes, Chels.
The seeming obsession with the external has gone on a bit long for us deep, spiritual folks who only have spiritual eyes and walk around our houses singling the hallelujah chorus all day. We live on love and sleep on clouds.
I do think this has probably run its course though. One shouldn’t entertain the carnal for too long if one can help it. Believe it or not, I actually learned something here.
Chels
August 4, 2011
Bubba, your kids are gorgeous though.
Svar
August 4, 2011
Bike, I’ve been on your blog a few times. What are you drinking from that blender?
“one thing I can state clearly about the Watson/Dawkins kerfuffle is that the “bright” community (what some atheists started calling themselves when the rest of us caught on to “freethinkers”) is incapable of what they claim is their hallmark; reasoned thinking.”
Thing about these people, Bike, is that their religion is liberalism. There is no room for reasoned-thinking in liberalism.
terri
August 4, 2011
Abut if we must discuss looks, I’m a ten to my wife, a zero to the rest of you, and that’s just fine with me. :^) I’ve actually got a head shot on my blog if anyone cares.
Bubba’s cute. I’ve never gone for cute, but like Bubba has said (and Joanna and I have said also), the only thing that matters is what our respective spouses think.
I kind of feel for you single folk, to tell you the truth. Not only do you need to find someone of excellent character that you have good chemistry with. They have to rank appropriately on the scale.
I’m so glad I’m not single.
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
Believe it or not, I actually learned something here.
Well, what was it?
joanna
August 4, 2011
That’s a French press…coffee. Yum.
Alte
August 4, 2011
Chels,
I’m not actually shallow; I’m just too dry and pragmatic to attempt false modesty or to overrate my looks. I can tell from the reactions I get from other people that I’m a bit spectacular-looking (people often use that precise word, in fact) and that the majority of men of all races would put me in the “I’d hit it” category, but I can see the flaws in my appearance that keep me from being in the 8-10 “beautiful” category. Hence, a 7.
This is simply a very realistic rating based upon the fact that (yes, Cane is right) physical attractiveness is rather objective. My larger point is that some men would give me a 6 and others an 8 depending upon their personal preferences. So, there’s a range.
terri
August 4, 2011
Thing about these people, Bike, is that their religion is liberalism. There is no room for reasoned-thinking in liberalism.
This. This. have you tried to hold a conversation with a liberal (i mean in real life.)? I have a relative who lives on the left coast. When he visited during the ’08 election. He came out of the room wearing an Obama t-shirt. I think he was baiting me.
Anyway, we had an extensive conversation and there was no room for logic in it. This was as much about faith to him as my Christian faith is to me.
Alte
August 4, 2011
I think the 1-10 scale is fascinating, actually. It’s a form of pseudo-science, and a bit difficult to pin down.
Chels
August 4, 2011
Alte, no offense, but from that picture, you seem pretty average looking (maybe it’s just the pic or maybe I have different standards).
Alte
August 4, 2011
LOL. No offense taken. I picked that picture because I’m not easily recognizable from it. And maybe I am average-looking. *shrugs* To each his/her own.
terri
August 4, 2011
Well, what was it?
I learned that I really like Rembrandt’s “Night Watch.” I hadn’t thought about it or seen I don’t think since my freshman humanities class.
I learned that it is common practice for men to “stick a number” on a woman as Svar so eloquently put it. As a other of three teen girls, I’m a bit uncomfortable with that, but it is what it is.
I learned that there is a woman out there who is a literal life-size representation of Barbie. And I learned that it is far more creepy than I ever thought a real Barbie would be.
Chels
August 4, 2011
Terri, not really. To me, personality is the only thing that ever mattered and that I was attracted to.
A Lady
August 4, 2011
Married men don’t find her appealing, but unmarried men do, is what it looks like, actually.
Alte
August 4, 2011
LOL, Terri.
Stadt-Land-Fluss
August 4, 2011
Does anyboday here knows if there are people working with an inverted 1-10 scale?
joanna
August 4, 2011
Hmmm, I think that picture of Alte is really pretty myself.
Morticia
August 4, 2011
My face is a love it or hate it thing with men..while my body (when thin) is pretty steady 6. Some men like a face with “character” and would give mine a 7, while some guys are not attracted to it at all and would rate it a 2.
This is the problem I have with the point scale.. If you actually have a distinct look it makes it much harder. We can all agree that Barbara Streisand isn’t a 10..or even an 8 or 9 but because of how distinct her nose is men could get in some heated debates about whether she is a 3 or a 7.
So points really only seem to be agreed upon at the highest and lowest rank. The 3-7 range is almost totally preference.
Chels
August 4, 2011
Julianne Moore is my idea of beautiful.
terri
August 4, 2011
I just remembered Svar and Bubba, that I posted about my debate with my liberal BIL:
http://terrybreathinggrace.wordpress.com/2008/06/09/awkwardness/
Chels
August 4, 2011
Morticia, if that woman in your picture is you, then you’re gorgeous.
Alte
August 4, 2011
BTW, Morticia, you’re prettier than you said you were. I think you’re a bit hung up on the nose-thing, but maybe you should look around a bit more.
Chels
August 4, 2011
I think with Alte it’s her short hair–I don’t like short hair on women.
(I have a friend with short hair and she says she can’t get a date because all the men think she’s either a lesbian or a radfem–she’s neither.)
Alte
August 4, 2011
Chels is being predictable. LOL
Alte
August 4, 2011
That’s rather strange, Chels. Even men who don’t like short hair wouldn’t downgrade a woman’s face for it. I speak from experience. Even guys who hate, hate, HATE short hair hit on me. Sometimes the opening line is, “I really hate your hair. You should grow it out.”
I have shoulder-length hair now, at any rate.
Chels
August 4, 2011
Who said anything about a pretty face? She’s ok looking, but she’d be better looking with longer hair, she has a pixie cut right now.
terri
August 4, 2011
I think you’re a bit hung up on the nose-thing, but maybe you should look around a bit more.
I mean really. She doesn’t have to look far. Look at how my nose is spread across my face!
Svar
August 4, 2011
“This. This. have you tried to hold a conversation with a liberal (i mean in real life.)? I have a relative who lives on the left coast. When he visited during the ’08 election. He came out of the room wearing an Obama t-shirt. I think he was baiting me.”
Yep, I have. It was a waste of time.
Anyway, we had an extensive conversation and there was no room for logic in it. This was as much about faith to him as my Christian faith is to me.”
Exactly, however, I’ve noticed that Conservative Christianfolk can be emotional as well in their arguments. I don’t use any of the Fox News arguments any more(Fox News is so lame), so I use secular alt-rightish arguments now. Shocks them.
Chels
August 4, 2011
Terri, you look exactly like I imagined you, and your nose is fine, it’s not spread out at all, it goes with your face.
Maybe you could lend Alte some of your modesty, and then you’d be fine lol
Alte
August 4, 2011
OK, Chels, pics or GTFO.
terri
August 4, 2011
The menfolk are right. Women are far harder on themselves than most men are. Forget this Internet stuff. I mean in real life. Most men don’t pick women apart the way we pick ourselves apart.
Obsidian would have a field day with this thread. I pray I didn’t awaken him with the mention of his name.
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
My favorite Rembrandt is “A Man in a Room”
http://uploads0.wikipaintings.org/images/rembrandt/a-man-in-a-room-1630.jpg
My favorite painting is Cupid Chastised
http://www.crabbish.com/CupidChastisedBartelomio.jpg
I saw it at the Art Institute in Chicago, and I went from mildly interested visitor to awestruck gawker. Gawkstruck, perhaps.
@Morticia
I think very few men like “a face with character”, but I can see many men liking a face with your character. And I don’t mean “like” as in “put up with”, I mean like.
Chels
August 4, 2011
A pic of me or of my friend?
Alte
August 4, 2011
Chels,
This is why women struggle to judge other women. *rolls eyes* If Alte were more modest, I’d say she were prettier. I don’t live in Internet-world.
Alte
August 4, 2011
You, Chels.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
Yeah, really Chels. Pic!
I get the impression …thinking ahead of time….
that you are a brunette, average weight and rather short.
No glasses.
Let’s see how close I am.
Svar
August 4, 2011
“I learned that it is common practice for men to “stick a number” on a woman as Svar so eloquently put it. As a mother of three teen girls, I’m a bit uncomfortable with that, but it is what it is. ”
I understand. Guys my age can be pretty crude when we talk about women, but in general we’re mostly joking to entertain ourselves. Same thing with the scale. Point out a good-looking and then try to assign her a number. Then argue whether or not she is a high-7 or low-8. Just stuff like that.
The Deuce
August 4, 2011
Okay, since everyone else is doing it….
The Deuce
August 4, 2011
Huh, my pic didn’t show up in the icon. Anyhow, you can click on my name.
Chels
August 4, 2011
Ahahhahah no pic. I’ll give you a description—no glasses, 5’8, size 8, blue-gray eyes, curly brunette hair (it turns golden in the summer), long face, and small eyes/lips.
Imagine Gillian Anderson with curly hair.
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
Deuce, you need a gladius. Roma Victa!
Stewart Griffin
August 4, 2011
Women, insecure about their looks? No, I cannot believe that.
Alte
August 4, 2011
It takes a while to show up.
Chels is using Girl Ratings. If a woman says she’s a 3 and posts a pic where she’s a 5, everyone rushes over to tell her how gorgeous she is. If a woman says she’s a 10 and posts a pic where she’s an 8, everyone rushes to tell her how ugly she is. If a woman says she’s a 7 and posts a pic where she’s a 7, everyone just acts really ticked off. She’s supposed to say she’s a 5 and then wait for the compliments to rain down on her.
This, in a nutshell, is why I’m not very good with women. LOL
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
Imagine Gillian Anderson with curly hair.
I could have guessed she’d say that. There’s only so many famous women nerd-girls are going to think they’re like. That chick from Buffy (but not Buffy) is the other one.
Svar
August 4, 2011
Deuce, you seem pissed off in that pic. But Cane is right, you look like a Roman.
Chels
August 4, 2011
Surprisingly, I’m not a nerd at alllll (I just picked her because my mom says I look like her, and I don’t know of anybody else to direct you to).
Alte
August 4, 2011
Yeah, he looks very Roman IRL, too.
Svar
August 4, 2011
“Women, insecure about their looks? No, I cannot believe that.”
I know what you mean. It baffles my mind.
terri
August 4, 2011
Women, insecure about their looks? No, I cannot believe that.
Very funny Stewart.
But think about it. Married women, smart women, with presumably attractive husbands (mine is definitely attractive but I can’t speak for the rest because I haven’t seen them), still fretting about their noses or their pores, or whatever else has been mentioned here.
It might make a bit of sense for single women to be a little concerned. But not happily married women unless there is something their husband is dissatisfied with that they can do something about (such as weight).
It would be funny if there wasn’t an element of sadness to all of it.
The Deuce
August 4, 2011
I uploaded a couple other less pissed off ones too, but I couldn’t figure out how to get gravatar to make it possible to browse them.
terri
August 4, 2011
If a woman says she’s a 3 and posts a pic where she’s a 5, everyone rushes over to tell her how gorgeous she is. If a woman says she’s a 10 and posts a pic where she’s an 8, everyone rushes to tell her how ugly she is. If a woman says she’s a 7 and posts a pic where she’s a 7, everyone just acts really ticked off. She’s supposed to say she’s a 5 and then wait for the compliments to rain down on her.
This is so funny, because I have absolutely no idea what number I would put on myself. I guess I still don’t get it.
I know what my husband would say, but he’s not that objective.
joanna
August 4, 2011
“This is so funny, because I have absolutely no idea what number I would put on myself. I guess I still don’t get it.
I know what my husband would say, but he’s not that objective.”
This is me, too.
Alte
August 4, 2011
It would be funny if there wasn’t an element of sadness to all of it.
Intra-female competition is pretty fierce right now. Like I wrote before, women are losing value in our society. It is rather sad, I agree. I try not to think about it, as there’s nothing I can do about it.
Chels
August 4, 2011
That’s true if you’re talking about the alphas. However, I always went for the betas because I knew they had what I’m looking for–awesome personality, and there’s not a lot of competition over them.
The Deuce
August 4, 2011
Okay, figured it out
Stewart Griffin
August 4, 2011
You are expecting people’s insecurities to make logical sense?
Alte
August 4, 2011
It does make logical sense, actually. Morticia and I both feel like we “married up”, so we’re more insecure about losing the little bit of leverage we had with our youthful looks. Also, you sort of wonder if he only married you for your looks, so when they start to fade it’s Panic Mode.
It’s stupid, I know.
The Deuce
August 4, 2011
Chels:
Imagine Gillian Anderson with curly hair.
Pic or it didn’t happen
Chels
August 4, 2011
Alte, it also also applies to personalities–I feel like I’m dating up because his personality is so much better than mine, and it makes me feel really insecure.
Svar
August 4, 2011
“That’s true if you’re talking about the alphas. However, I always went for the betas because I knew they had what I’m looking for–awesome personality, and there’s not a lot of competition over them.”
Chels, I’m not sure that you know the difference between an alpha or a beta. How do you define “alpha” and “beta”?
Everytime a girl says “I’ve always went for the betas” online the first thing that pops into my mind is: Schneeflockeerscheinen.
terri
August 4, 2011
Morticia and I both feel like we “married up”
In what way? If you mean in terms of looks, then I’d say I “married up” too. Easily. And despite the bit obvious of baggage my husband brought with him (I had my share of baggage too it just took a while to unpack it), he’s smart and accomplished.
But I don’t fret about my looks. I spend far more energy on staying in shape than I ever thought I would, though. Late 30′s babies did a number on me. Some days are worse than others, of course, but I don’t see why one should borrow trouble. If he’s gonna leave it’s not like you can stop him. And none of us is getting any younger. Men of character and integrity value women on character and integrity.
Did you ever seethis post at Keoni’s? It’s pretty coarse in spots but the overall message is valid. The old guy who wrote it stated clearly that he still finds his wife beautiful because of who she is.
Women would do well to remember that. I’ve got plenty to “worry” about without worrying that my husband is gonna leave me for some hot little number.
A Lady
August 4, 2011
Since I got married, I can’t tell whether men talking to me out of the blue when I am out and about are hitting on me or not, because I live in the land of Scand(inavian descent people, the PacNW) and it’s not considered proper to be chatty in public. So I have no idea whether my attractiveness has nosedived with other men or not.
Svar
August 4, 2011
“Did you ever seethis post at Keoni’s? It’s pretty coarse in spots but the overall message is valid. The old guy who wrote it stated clearly that he still finds his wife beautiful because of who she is.”
Yeah, I remember that. I saw the original post over at Solomon II’s site as well.
Stewart Griffin
August 4, 2011
I would bet gold that we could find nuns who are insecure about their looks.
If you are looking for logic in this I would look to nature and not individual circumstance.
Svar
August 4, 2011
Damn, I haven’t read anything by Solomon II in a while. He has words of wisdom.
Svar
August 4, 2011
“If you are looking for logic in this I would look to nature and not individual circumstance.”
I think that you’re point is that all women are insecure. If that is the case, then I’m right on that account.
Bike Bubba
August 4, 2011
“Bubba, your kids are gorgeous though”
Thanks, Chels–you can credit my mom and my wife for that one. And thanks for visiting my, and I’m guessing my wife’s, site.
Svar, the glass thing in the picture is a french press for coffee. It gives you a LOT more taste out of the bean, and also a lot more space on the kitchen counter.
Terri, my brother is pretty liberal, though he once described himself as libertarian. Even he can’t figure that one out. My favorite example of his illogic (and keep in mind he’s a Hahvid and Beserkeley grad); when I asked him to answer a hypothetical–he flat out refused to do one of the most basic tasks of rhetoric after three years at one of the most prestigious liberal arts colleges in the nation. He and his Yalie wife also had no clue about what the Trivium is. (this experience speaks things–unprintable things–about the state of liberal arts education in our country, IMO)
And I’ll say it as well regarding the genesis of this thread; Ms. Watson seriously overestimates her physical beauty, to put it mildly, and the high esteem with which the blind (I mean “bright”) community holds her beauty suggests that “brights” are not only unacquainted with logic, but also have never met truly attractive women.
(why is the football field at Hahvid astroturf? A: because the cheerleaders spent too much time grazing!)
terri
August 4, 2011
I think that you’re point is that all women are insecure.
But not all women are insecure about the same things. The truth is that the women I know who hardly ever talk about looks are the ones who are pretty well unplugged from mainstream culture.
Maybe more of us should try it.
Svar
August 4, 2011
“I think that you’re point is that all women are insecure. If that is the case, then you’re right on that account.”
I meant to say “you’re” not “I’m” Stewie.
joanna
August 4, 2011
What a funny conversation.
“Men of character and integrity value women on character and integrity.”
This is mostly why I never worry about my husband leaving me. He is a quality man and he’s pretty darn sure he married a quality woman. He makes me feel beautiful and that’s all that matters to me.
terri
August 4, 2011
This is mostly why I never worry about my husband leaving me. He is a quality man and he’s pretty darn sure he married a quality woman. He makes me feel beautiful and that’s all that matters to me.
I could’ve written this one, Joanna.
Alte
August 4, 2011
I never said that I worry about my husband leaving me, just that I worry that he won’t find me attractive anymore. The former is a matter of integrity, the latter is a matter of personal taste and physical attraction.
He makes me feel beautiful and that’s all that matters to me.
Really? I know he thinks I’m attractive; at least attractive enough to want to have sex with me. But beautiful? I can’t really think of myself as beautiful if I know that I’m not beautiful. I can look in any mirror and see that I’m not beautiful.
Perhaps Morticia and I are just horribly unromantic. Even if my husband were to say that I’m beautiful, I wouldn’t take it seriously.
terri
August 4, 2011
I know he thinks I’m attractive; at least attractive enough to want to have sex with me. But beautiful? I can’t really think of myself as beautiful if I know that I’m not beautiful. I can look in any mirror and see that I’m not beautiful.
Did you see Keoni’s post that I referenced above Alte?
I think that’s what Joanna meant. That’s what I was thinking. And yes, my husband does (at times) make me feel beautiful. Like when I turned 40. He said to me directly:
“I want you to do something for me. I want you to have your portrait done. I think you’re as beautiful now as you were when I married you. Maybe even more. I wouldn’t change a thing about you.”
What kind of woman hears that and doesn’t feel beautiful? He doesn’t say things like that very often. Almost never, really. I think the reality that we’ve spent basically our entire adult life loving each other kind of just hit him when I turned 40.
I know I’m not a supermodel. I’m not stupid. And I know I don’t look as I did at 22. But I have grown in life and love enough to know that the scale of beauty isn’t isolated to all things physical.
Even if my husband were to say that I’m beautiful, I wouldn’t take it seriously.
Why wouldn’t you believe your own husband? It doesn’t mean you think you’re supermodel beautiful. It just means you’re beautiful to him. Isn’t that what’s most important?
Chels
August 4, 2011
Chels, I’m not sure that you know the difference between an alpha or a beta. How do you define “alpha” and “beta”?
Alpha looking=a jock type of guy, someone really good looking (George Clooney)
My boyfriend is beta looking but has the most alpha personality. Btw, I feel very uncomfortable using this alpha/beta language because it’s so degrading.
terri
August 4, 2011
Perhaps Morticia and I are just horribly unromantic.
Yeah, I’ll say, LOL. I look at the image you see to your right every morning. I know what I look like, and so does SAM. And still he looks at me as if I’m beautiful, and in those moments, he makes me feel it, too.
I am no Halle Berry. I am not delusional. I promise.
Alte
August 4, 2011
What kind of woman hears that and doesn’t feel beautiful?
Uh… me. LOL Complimenting and insulting me are both sort of pointless. If he were to tell me 20 times a day that I’m ugly, I wouldn’t believe him. I know I’m not ugly. If he were to tell me 20 times a day that I’m beautiful, I also wouldn’t believe him. I know that I’m not beautiful.
Beautiful to him? I don’t know. He gave me a 7, and I think that’s how he sees me. He rates most women lower, but I don’t think he rates me higher.
Alte, it also also applies to personalities–I feel like I’m dating up because his personality is so much better than mine, and it makes me feel really insecure.
Same here. He’s a lot smarter than me, too.
joanna
August 4, 2011
“I can look in any mirror and see that I’m not beautiful.”
Puhleeze. I think your picture bespeaks beauty. So there.
terri
August 4, 2011
Beautiful to him? I don’t know. He gave me a 7, and I think that’s how he sees me. He rates most women lower, but I don’t think he rates me higher.
We aren’t using the same metric. You’re using the 1 to 10 scale. I’m using a combination of the 1 to 10 scale and inner qualities. Being beautiful on the outside while having no brain, character, or interesting qualities besides is rather pointless. Which is why I keep referring to Keoni’s post. I’m trying to make clear what I’m talking about. Maybe a quote might help:
“A good woman ages beautifully. When I look at my wife, I see the most gorgeous woman in the universe. Her wrinkled hands got that way by keeping up with my two boys and working hard for them while I was on the road. The lines under her eyes are from years of shedding tears for me when I was at war, and those wrinkles on her brow are from decades of worry for me and my two sons. It was her legs they held on to when they were learning to walk, her lap was where they learned to read, and her breasts were their first nourishment. The first kiss those boys ever received was from her lips, and God willing, my last kiss will be from her lips.
You two don’t know what you’re missing – or maybe you do. But all I know is that she’s as beautiful, desirable, and lovely today as the day I met her…”
This what I mean. Beauty is not just outward Alte. Aesthetics are subjective anyway, despite what we’ve learned here today.
terri
August 4, 2011
Puhleeze. I think your picture bespeaks beauty. So there.
Yes, she is pretty, Joanna. I’ve seen a better pic of her than the one posted. Methinks she’s spent far too much time considering the 1 to 10 scale.
But just wait. Tomorrow she’ll say something like, “I’m cute and sweet.” or “I have a great body.”
She knows she’s pretty.
Alte
August 4, 2011
I would say that beauty is about aesthetics and general attractiveness is about the whole picture. That was the point I was trying to make earlier; that I “punch above my weight” in the dating market according to my appearance, but that I make up for it in other ways.
I don’t feel bad about not being beautiful or feeling beautiful, you guys. LOL I don’t feel bad about not looking like a supermodel, just as I don’t feel bad about not being as smart as Einstein. I’m just very realistic and unromantic. My husband complains about how unromantic I am all the time, in fact. He says it’s like trying to romance a refrigerator.
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
Uh… me. LOL Complimenting and insulting me are both sort of pointless. If he were to tell me 20 times a day that I’m ugly, I wouldn’t believe him. I know I’m not ugly. If he were to tell me 20 times a day that I’m beautiful, I also wouldn’t believe him. I know that I’m not beautiful.
Troubling words. I hope my wife never says those things.
I think that you’re point is that all women are insecure. If that is the case, then (you’re) right on that account.
Ok, but that’s not the takeaway. It’s this: All women want to be made secure.
What some of them do when they get there is a different matter…
Alte
August 4, 2011
Pretty isn’t the same as beautiful, Terri. Pretty is 5-7, beautiful is 8-10.
Yes, I’ve thought about this waaaay too much. Once they put a scale to something and start measuring and coming up with detailed criteria, my hyperfocusing kicks in. LOL I keep picturing ways we could graph the scale according to the general population.
Alte
August 4, 2011
Why is that troubling, Cane? My husband hates that too, actually, although I don’t understand why.
terri
August 4, 2011
Troubling words. I hope my wife never says those things.
I thought it was troubling too, Cane. And I’m not terribly romantic. I consider myself a realist. Some might even say a pessimist, LOL.
But I hope I never get to the point where my husband’s heartfelt declarations of love don’t move me.
Alte
August 4, 2011
You make it sound so awful. It does move me that he’s trying to pay me a compliment. That’s sweet.
Alte
August 4, 2011
I think most women’s perceptions of their looks is strongly affected by their emotions. Mine’s more affected by the visual evidence.
I am aware that this makes me a bit of an oddity.
terri
August 4, 2011
although I don’t understand why.
Oh gosh! I think I just really understood for the first time how analytical and hyper-intelligent you are, Alte. Up until this point I just thought you were really smart, but basically normal when you get down to it.
But you really are abnormal among women. Marriage is not a romantic endeavor first and foremost. But the Bible makes it clear that romance is a part of the deal. It’s a part of who we are, how we connect. Your husband needs you to not just be attracted to him, but get all mushy inside. At least sometimes. And he needs to know he can bring that out of you.
And I say this as one who isn’t terribly romantic as a matter of course.
Alte
August 4, 2011
Well, my daughter is autistic, you know. She gets that from somewhere. Don’t you think Black Rose would also be able to give a rather objective view of her appearance?
Chels
August 4, 2011
but get all mushy inside.
I’ll be happy to lend Alte some of my mushiness any time.
Alte
August 4, 2011
I do cuddle sometimes. I’m not a complete block of ice. And I giggle appropriately, and flirt very well. These are things you can learn. You can’t really learn to “get all mushy”.
terri
August 4, 2011
Don’t you think Black Rose would also be able to give a rather objective view of her appearance?
I think I’m objective about my appearance. A 5 at best if I just HAD to rate it. It isn’t about that, not really. We’re talking about something else now.
We’re talking about allowing your husband to know that he can make you feel, if only for a moment, like you’re the most beautiful woman in the world to him.
terri
August 4, 2011
I do cuddle sometimes. I’m not a complete block of ice. And I giggle appropriately, and flirt very well. These are things you can learn. You can’t really learn to “get all mushy”.
LOL. Oh well, do the best you can with what you got, girl.
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
You’ve chosen vanity over his love out of self-protection–Alte decides how beautiful Alte is, and no one else. If you deign to say he’s right, then good for him. And when you get older, you’ll choose how beautiful you are then, too.
You’re accusing him of being a liar. You’re accusing him of having no taste. You’re telling him there’s part of your heart that you’re keeping him out of. You’re literally saying he has no bearing on what you think of yourself. You may think this is a mind issue, but its not. When a man who loves a woman tells her she’s beautiful, and she rejects it, she’s rejecting him and his heart. This is especially true of wives and daughters.
terri
August 4, 2011
You may think this is a mind issue, but its not. When a man who loves a woman tells her she’s beautiful, and she rejects it, she’s rejecting him and his heart.
That’s what I said, LOL.
But not nearly as well as a man could express it.
I know something about self-protecting, though. I remember when my husband accused me of shutting him out and keeping part of myself back. It hurt, but it was true. I empathize with Alte, but I’m so glad I took the walls down and let him all the way in. It’s so much better this way!
Looking forward to seeing how the rest of this unfolds. Until tomorrow, all.
Chels
August 4, 2011
Alte, how hard can it be to say thanks, smile and give him a kiss?
Alte
August 4, 2011
Cane,
That sounds very romantic, but it makes zero sense to me. What if he told me that I was ugly? Should I believe that too?
At any rate, he doesn’t tell me that I’m beautiful, so the point is rather mute. He teases me more about my looks, mostly, or gives me faint praise like, “You look alright.” It’s Neg-Land here, basically. He sometimes tells me that I’m hot. He told me once that I’m a 7. I know that he thinks I’m very attractive though, as he considers most other women less attractive. He’s romantic in other ways, though. Holding open doors, or holding hands.
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
Chels, you really ought to let the grown-ups talk. You have no idea how irrelevant your comment is.
Alte
August 4, 2011
Why does everyone assume that he tells me that I’m beautiful?
Chels
August 4, 2011
But I do, it just doesn’t have to be as philosophical as you make it.
terri
August 4, 2011
I was supposed to be gone, but I remember long ago reading a post by Ann Voskamp where she says her husband said to her:
“When I tell you you’re beautiful, I need you to believe me.”
It really is that simple Alte. It is about believing him.
how hard can it be to say thanks, smile and give him a kiss?
That’s not enough. Not if it’s just going through the motions. It’s about believing his heart. It’s a foundational part of your marriage.
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
That sounds very romantic, but it makes zero sense to me.
I don’t know you very well, but I think I know you well enough to say you’re lying. Perhaps to yourself, too, and maybe not purposefully.
What if he told me that I was ugly? Should I believe that too?
The idea of that offends and scares the crap out of you, doesn’t it?
terri
August 4, 2011
Why does everyone assume that he tells me that I’m beautiful?
Because he loves you. Of course he thinks you’re beautiful. He must express it in some way.
My husband is “King of the Neg”, too. And even he expresses from time to time how much he loves his “beautiful wife.”
Two or three times a year, LOL.
Okay, now I’m gone for real.
Alte
August 4, 2011
Thanks guys. Now I feel bad that he doesn’t tell me that I’m beautiful. LOL
Alte
August 4, 2011
Why should he think I’m beautiful, just because he loves me? Can’t he just love me while knowing that I’m merely “pretty”? And since when is pretty not good enough? He does love me, I know that.
I feel like we’re talking past each other.
terri
August 4, 2011
Alte, did you read the quote I posted from Keoni’s blog?
Of course he thinks you’re beautiful. In ways that can’t quantified with a scale.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
Alte:
You may ignore them all. By his ACTIONS not so much his word shall ye know him.
If he’s banging you like there’s no tomorrow and otherwise making lil gestures of respect and lovey-dovey you don’t need to hear how beautiful you are, or how much he loves you. Because you’ll KNOW. You might add the data point that super picky David Alexander thinks you are hot. Now chin-up!
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
Well, I am working off mostly off this:
Why is that troubling, Cane? My husband hates that too, actually, although I don’t understand why.
The other thing is that he married you. Were you pregnant, and he a church-going American Protestant? Because that’s the only time modern men marry women they don’t believe are beautiful.
If he’s not telling you, It could very well be because he is afraid you’ll tell him he’s irrelevant. There are probably other arenas where this separation is expressed, and maybe he’s learned. Beauty is a tough one for vain women to give up control over.
terri
August 4, 2011
@Clarence,
We are not speculating about whether Alte’s husband thinks she’s beautiful. We are assuming that’s a given. We are responding to her own words here:
Complimenting and insulting me are both sort of pointless. If he were to tell me 20 times a day that I’m ugly, I wouldn’t believe him. I know I’m not ugly. If he were to tell me 20 times a day that I’m beautiful, I also wouldn’t believe him.
That is not healthy. I think Cane, a married man, is spot on with his remarks.
I really need to bow out, but I think this is huge, Alte. I know you’re a smart girl, but I really want you to get this. It isn’t about the exact words he uses. It’s about accepting what he’s trying to convey however he expresses it.
Alte
August 4, 2011
The idea of that offends and scares the crap out of you, doesn’t it?
I’ve never had a lover tell me that I’m unattractive before, and I think I’d think he’d lost his mind if he said it. I have had men tell me that they only value me for my appearance, though. I was debating one and he dragged me over to a mirror, pointed in the glass and said, “That, right there, is why I keep you around. Now STFU.”
I suppose I’m more worried about men not thinking anything about me is attractive other than my appearance. I’m not at all insecure about my looks. My personality sort of sucks. This thread is Evidence #124. LOL
Chels
August 4, 2011
Alte, do you give him compliments?
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
I feel like we’re talking past each other.
It’s possible, but I don’t think so. You made a big explicit point about how what he said didn’t matter:
Uh… me. LOL Complimenting and insulting me are both sort of pointless. If he were to tell me 20 times a day that I’m ugly, I wouldn’t believe him. I know I’m not ugly. If he were to tell me 20 times a day that I’m beautiful, I also wouldn’t believe him. I know that I’m not beautiful.
If your husband were to tell you that you are beautiful, you should feel free to believe him.
I think this is probably all I should say on this, though. We could be talking past each other, or not…
Alte
August 4, 2011
Yes, Chels.
What I like best about my husband is that he likes to talk with me.
Chels
August 4, 2011
What I like best about my husband is that he likes to talk with me.
that’s actually more of a compliment to you, than to him.
Alte
August 4, 2011
Cane,
Now you’re turning against your own prior argument. First you say that beauty is completely objective, and now you say that it is subjective. Which is it? Beauty is like height, weight, intelligence, health, etc. It’s something you can measure to within a reasonable range.
If my husband were to tell me that I’m 6’4″, I wouldn’t believe it either.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
Ok, I will chime in one last time on the Alte Problem:
Alte, you may feel free to ignore a compliment or two here or there just as you might wish to ignore him calling you “ugly” or something hurtful once or twice should you be in the middle of a huge flame fest of a fight or something. People try to hurt each other in such spats and so say what they don’t mean, and occasionally a compliment is done as a social grace. But Cane and Terri are right in that if he’s always telling you something, you should believe it, whether its good or bad.
Now I am going to bow out of talking anymore about this subject myself. I’ll respond to posts about my post.
Alte
August 4, 2011
No, it’s a compliment to him. I’m not always that interesting, and he seems to enjoy it even when I’m dull. I value that.
Alte
August 4, 2011
Sorry to derail, Clarence. Bye for now.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
I should say you should BELIEVE IT IS HIS OPINION whether it is good or bad. Hope. Site. Gets. Edit. Function.
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
Crap… Ok, at least one more thing
I suppose I’m more worried about men not thinking anything about me is attractive other than my appearance. I’m not at all insecure about my looks. My personality sort of sucks. This thread is Evidence #124. LOL
This is evidence. You’ve said, in effect, that no matter what else you know you’re attractive. You’re willing to forgo the brains or personality, but the one thing that cannot be touched is your looks. You don’t question it, and no one can.
Why? What would happen if they did? Doesn’t matter: it’s not up for discussion. When I couple this with the “20 times” paragraph, I see trouble, and I think what I’ve said is on solid ground.
terri
August 4, 2011
Now you’re turning against your own prior argument. First you say that beauty is completely objective, and now you say that it is subjective.
Uh-uh Alte. We’re talking about relationships. Feelings in relationships are not objective. You don’t have the right to invalidate your husband’s feelings about you.
You’re in a marriage, not out on the open SMP, for lack of a better phrase. Beauty encompasses many things in the context of a long-term marriage. And the people in that marriage determine what that is within the context of that marriage.
You’re far too smart to not be getting this. Far too smart.
terri
August 4, 2011
Okay, I’m really done now. Sorry Clarence.
It’s just that I’ve developed a virtual fondness for Alte and since I’ve been married a lot longer I thought I’d offer some encouragement.
But I’m done now.
Stat-Land-Fluss
August 4, 2011
”My personality sort of sucks. This thread is Evidence #124.”
Nah, you have certain insecurities but that is not unusual.
If your personality would suck you wouldn’t be able to create your old blog and organize this one.
Both belong to the sanest in the Manosphere
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
Now you’re turning against your own prior argument. First you say that beauty is completely objective, and now you say that it is subjective. Which is it? Beauty is like height, weight, intelligence, health, etc. It’s something you can measure to within a reasonable range.
Well, no. I added a new layer, or Terri did. Beauty is objective, but love will affect our perceptions. I said, way up there: “Love is transforming. It can even change your vision.” We’re talking about your (perceived) reticence to let love affect your husband’s vision.
Stewart Griffin
August 4, 2011
Yes, this would help with all the niggling errors, but the problem with editing is that the conversation can retro-actively change without people even being aware of it. At least this way you can read everything once, in sequence, without missing what is said and can rely on the stored thread to show how the conversation actually developed.
Svar
August 4, 2011
“Alpha looking=a jock type of guy, someone really good looking (George Clooney)
My boyfriend is beta looking but has the most alpha personality. Btw, I feel very uncomfortable using this alpha/beta language because it’s so degrading.”
Beta and alpha don’t have anything to do with looks. It’s all in the personality. Everything else, like height, body, face, or income are just extra boosts.
However, I don’t think you do know the difference between an alpha personality(like Tucker Max’s) and a beta personality.
How is it degrading? I don’t find it degrading and I’m a guy.
Svar
August 4, 2011
“I think that you’re point is that all women are insecure. If that is the case, then (you’re) right on that account.
Ok, but that’s not the takeaway. It’s this: All women want to be made secure.
What some of them do when they get there is a different matter…”
I dunno Cane…. It seems that they thrive upon their insecurities, like the way Roissy said.
Alte
August 4, 2011
Okay, I’ve thought about it some more. I think my husband’s love for me helps him to find me more beautiful on the inside than I actually am, and that’s what matters more to me because that’s what I’m most insecure about.
And now I’m done with psychoanalyzing myself for the day.
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
Roissy is not a Christian, and has no insight to the spirit. Moreover, he’s an outright hedonist, which is what the Serpent taught Eve. He’s a satanist in the true sense. Even Roissy knows the fuller truth than what he’s saying. The scriptures Satan quotes in the wilderness are true, but context is everything.
Morticia
August 4, 2011
Oh Darn. I missed Alte’s group therapy. And diagnosing people is one of my favorite hobbies.
But I am glad I wasn’t the one being diagnosed today. That never turns out well. :p
David Collard
August 4, 2011
Alte, I have seen your pictures. You would get a lot of male attention because you are cute and voluptuous with interesting eyes. Not my type, as I said before, but very cute.
I find this American 1-10 scale pretty silly.
Here is my latest Internet crush, Carolyn Farina in “Metropolitan”, playing an ingenue. I wonder what happened to her in real life. Probably better not to find out, bound to be disiilusioning:
http://austenprose.files.wordpress.com/2008/08/metrop1990w2.jpg
An Italian girl playing a WASP.
Learner
August 4, 2011
I think all the picture sharing indicates that people feel pretty comfortable with each other here.
Morticia, you are too hard on yourself for sure, though i understand about the nose thing. My nose is on the larger side too…a classic roman schnoz, and I am insecure about it as well. I have a pic on my old blog: learningtobalance.blogspot.com
Black_Rose
August 4, 2011
“Don’t you think Black Rose would also be able to give a rather objective view of her appearance?”
I think I run between a 5.5-7.5 . I look like a school girl since I have underdeveloped breasts, long straight black hair to my elbows, big brown eyes, and my relatively short stature (5’2″). I am often considered “cute” and “pretty” but never gorgeous. I look like this woman from this Verizon commercial:
David Collard
August 4, 2011
All the ladies are, as the French say, either jolie or jolie laide. And the gentlemen are debonair.
David Collard
August 4, 2011
BR, she is a cute woman. Boobs aren’t everything. Carolyn Farina is clearly not busty:
http://www.toimg.net/managed/images/10030770/w198/image.jpg
Svar
August 4, 2011
You had a blog, Learner?
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
DC, I’m a big fan of Whit Stillman.
Svar
August 4, 2011
“Roissy is not a Christian, and has no insight to the spirit. Moreover, he’s an outright hedonist, which is what the Serpent taught Eve. He’s a satanist in the true sense. Even Roissy knows the fuller truth than what he’s saying. The scriptures Satan quotes in the wilderness are true, but context is everything.”
I see what you mean, Cane.
Morticia
August 4, 2011
I use to believe that my personality was my “selling” quality because so many other women seemed immoral and stupid. Then I learned about hypergamy and realized that inherent virtue isn’t quite the selling point I thought it was, because women will do just about anything for a guy they are highly attracted to…even stuff I won’t do because of my burdensome morals.
David Alexander
August 4, 2011
Curses, the discussion about the women has run aground on the beaches of sanity. I’ll quickly note that Morticia isn’t what I expected at all, and Terri is a bit *darker* than I expected, but she admittedly has that middle class black woman look. I’ll also note that Alte didn’t look like who I was expecting either. And Clarence doesn’t look 40.
6.5s for all
Don’t know why he’s not married yet, LOL.
Because I am a sub-human male with high exacting standards*.
And FWIW, I stopped thinking of myself as ugly, but it’s a bit of a leap to say handsome. As I like to say, I fit that zone of bland and ineffectual, so I’m a bit perturbed when girls show any hint of attraction. FWIW, it seems that I seem to share the same insecurities that the other women in regards to their looks.
*or in a realistic sense, a low ranking beta male with low self-esteem, laziness, and a lovely dose of social phobia.
He’s actually very charming. Single by stubbornness, I suspect.
I am not charming! Or as I like to say, I stop being charming in the long-run and slowly become boring and repetitive. Nobody ever sticks around for that.
Morticia
August 4, 2011
David- What did you expect?
Learner
August 4, 2011
You had a blog, Learner?
Yep, for a few years I did, but I haven’t updated in over a year because I got really busy with my dissertation: Learningtobalance.blogspot.com
Morticia
August 4, 2011
Learner- I couldn’t quite see the size of your nose in your profile pic as it is cut off. I sorta see what you mean about “roman” though.
David Collard
August 4, 2011
Yes, Morticia, women will do anything for the right man. Anything.
Cane, I just discovered Whit Stillman films. I have been looking at excerpts on YouTube. Partly because that Carolyn Farina is very much my type. I think she even beats Elizabeth McGovern and Sean Young. High praise.
I may try to get hold of Metropolitan and The Last Days of Disco. The characters in the latter are the age I was then. Disco was the music of my youth. These are art movies though, so sourcing them might be a bit tricky.
Svar
August 4, 2011
Ahhh, I read some of your last posts(btw, I vaguely remember Ferd linking to you. He used to link to girl-blogs quite a bit). You talk of going out with this mysterious guy name “B.” Now who would that be?
Svar
August 4, 2011
“Yes, Morticia, women will do anything for the right man. Anything.”
Damn straight
Alte
August 4, 2011
That’s pretty much how I imagined you, BR.
Cane Caldo
August 4, 2011
Here’s my favorite scene from my favorite Whit Stillman movie, Barcelona
Alte
August 4, 2011
I find this American 1-10 scale pretty silly.
That’s because you miss the point of it. The benefit of the scale (from men’s eyes) is that hardly any women make a 9+, 8s are rare, 7s are uncommon, 6s aren’t seen every day, etc. Most women fall in the 1-5 range, which is less flattering than their real-world experience of being “physically attractive”. It’s like a gigantic neg. He might want to have sex with you, but if you refuse he can just say, “Eh.. she was only a 4 anyway. She should get over herself.”
David Alexander
August 4, 2011
David- What did you expect?
I remember you said that you looked Cuban, so I was expecting a bit more in terms of “darker” features, but you have the female Celtic ancestry look. OTOH, you have the look of a crunchy girl, and admittedly, I can see why you’ve had some image issues. You have a hint of boyishness, so you don’t look as “cute” as some other girls would.
David Alexander
August 4, 2011
Alte, I find it hard to down rate women with such low ratings. In my screwy scale, the 6s are the the center point of the scale, and these tend to be women who have enough prettiness that with nails, you’d overlook the fact that they’re not hot. 5s are just plain women who aren’t offensive, but 4 is where one starts saying “she’s ugly” and where nails or whatever fetish a man has doesn’t work. A lot of the lower ranked women probably get higher scores on the DA scale, and I don’t think anybody ever really scores below 2…
FWIW, Athena was a 6 to me. Her friend was an 8, but she screamed sex in the ways that I liked.
David Collard
August 4, 2011
Well, as I said, Alte, the attractiveness of women fits a lognormal scale. It is not linear.
I tend to like pretty and even quirky. Even this:
http://content8.flixster.com/photo/63/67/48/6367482_tml.jpg
Zoe Wanamaker.
Morticia
August 4, 2011
DA-
I am definitely not cute…at least not in pictures..though my actual personality is kind of “girlish” in the sense that I have a high-pitched voice and child-like mannerisms and an aura of naivete/innocence.
One of the things that annoys me about my appearance is that I don’t think it matches my actual personality that well. There is an in-congruence between my boyish features and my feminine personality that really annoys me. A hetero trapped in a lesbians body?
Learner
August 4, 2011
Thanks Alte for changing the @ to .
Morticia, if you click on the link to my quilting blog (top of my blogroll I think) there is a pic with all my nosey glory
Learner
August 4, 2011
Svar,
Yep, my blog used to get hits from IMF. Hmm….wonder who B is?
Morticia
August 4, 2011
Learner- Your nose looks proportional with your face. If it was any smaller I think it would look odd.
David Collard
August 4, 2011
Never mind, Morticia, I am a Jeff Goldblum mind trapped in a George Clooney body. I have actually had people express surprise that I have a PhD. I had an epiphany one day, at a restaurant with a mirror wall, “I don’t look very bright.”
Morticia
August 4, 2011
DC- LOL.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
Alte:
NO. Roissy and a few others might pretend to try to use it that way but you’ve got the frequencies wrong, at least outside of some secluded small village.
Yes, 9 or 10 is rare, heck ten is almost non existent, there’s probably less than 20 “10′s” in all of Baltimore city and surely no more than a thousand 9′s. However 8′s are common enough that one might see one to 3 per day, I’d say that they make up somewhere around 5 percent to 10 percent of all women. 3′s (on the other end) the same. The rest are 4 to 7 with an total of less than one percent being 1′s and 2′s.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
In short the vast majority of women are neither very ugly NOR very beautiful, the “obesity epidemic” has mostly shifted more women into the 3 to 5 range, not lower.
Morticia
August 4, 2011
This is a 1…even without being fat.
http://firealyellon.files.wordpress.com/2009/03/111007_ugly_woman_shirt.jpg
Morticia
August 4, 2011
These lades are a 2 for 1 special.
http://www.popularvirals.com/images/ugly-women/ugly-girls-0980.jpg
David Alexander
August 4, 2011
though my actual personality is kind of “girlish” in the sense that I have a high-pitched voice and child-like mannerisms and an aura of naivete/innocence.
Wow. I wouldn’t expect that. I’m thinking more like a Megan McArdle type with the not as high pitched voice with some degree of intellectuality and professionalism. In an urban context, the girl you bring to a date at a coffee shop to talk about serious things on a date. Alte in contrast is the girl who you think will gush on and on about her life to other people while eating dinner at say TGI Fridays. So admittedly, you do seem somewhat out of context.
A hetero trapped in a lesbians body?
As one former colleague noted, I’m a weird case where I’m not gay or really effeminate, but I’m not masculine by even average standards. So by default, he argued that I’m a “tomboyish lesbian” in lieu of a girlish man that likes women.
Clarence
August 4, 2011
The one on the left of the second picture is a 3, and probably more since that seems to be a costume. The costume reduces her to a 3. The first pic is a 2, not a one. you really want to see a one who isn’t deformed (most one’s are probably deformed in some way) ? Ok, you asked for it …don’t say I didn’t warn you…. prepare to scream….
8th picture from the top: behold CIGSTACHE!
http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2009/02/11/female-beauty-from-1-to-10/
Clarence
August 4, 2011
“One good thing about only getting into this after the event is that I get a complete picture. The interesting point for me is not whether such-and-such is justified, but the impression of “feminism” that a reader would get from elevatorgate. This was a rare occurance where ‘Feminism’ coincided with a community of people who are predominantly seen as left wing, egalitarian and open-minded: That is, people who would be ripe for recruitment into feminism. Yet from what I can tell all that feminists have achieved is that they managed to highlight the worst extremes of the movement and put off all those in the skeptic community who weren’t already radical feminists. As we can see from the recent arrival of debaser71 here what they have achieved is to create a large number of intelligent, thoughtful people who are likely to now view feminism and feminists as just as dogmatic and bigoted as the most fundamental of christians (The excommunication that the feminists are doing at pharyngula that you highlighted in your post shows that this view isn’t unjustified). I think that the damage done to Feminism in all this is immense.”
http://www.feministcritics.org/blog/2011/07/06/an-open-thread-that-exceeds-the-debt-ceiling/
David Collard
August 4, 2011
Precisely, Clarence. The truth comes out in the end. The feminists have shown themselves in this case to be cruel and doctrinaire. No matter how a man debases himself, he will still be criticised by these ghastly women. Better for a man to not even try. I find it curious that coffee guy himself is nowhere in all this.
Learner
August 4, 2011
Morticia, I never thought about it like that. I suppose it does fit the rest of my face. I look lik my dad, and it is a smaller version of his nose.
Alte
August 4, 2011
Clarence,
Monica Bellucci is absolutely gorgeous. I rate myself about the same as the redhead, which seems correct.
Alte in contrast is the girl who you think will gush on and on about her life to other people while eating dinner at say TGI Fridays.
Yeah, I look “ditzy and cheerful”, and I play it up sometimes if I have the energy. Blah, blah, giggle, blah, giggle, blah, blah. And look surprised or astonished periodically, “OMG, really? That is so amazing!” I can only keep it up for a few hours before I get burnt out and retreat behind my Wall of Introversion, though.
I don’t look very bright, like DC said. LOL That’s one of the reasons I like to wear glasses. I’d wear some even if I didn’t need them, I think. People take you more seriously if you wear glasses. Glasses, dowdy clothes, and no makeup. Then everyone assumes you must be Really Smart. I’ve got “stylish nerd” glasses, too. LOL
Svar
August 5, 2011
“That’s because you miss the point of it. The benefit of the scale (from men’s eyes) is that hardly any women make a 9+, 8s are rare, 7s are uncommon, 6s aren’t seen every day, etc. Most women fall in the 1-5 range, which is less flattering than their real-world experience of being “physically attractive”. It’s like a gigantic neg. He might want to have sex with you, but if you refuse he can just say, “Eh.. she was only a 4 anyway. She should get over herself.””
“Most women fall in the 1-5 range”? What? From what I’ve seen most women are in the 6-8 range, thre second most are in the 5 range, and those in the 1-4 and 9-10 ranges are rare. I’m pretty sure it’s more of a bell curve.
I use the scale just to figure out what I’m pulling. It’s always a nice surprise when you find out that the 7 you pulled is actually an 8. It’s just one of those things guys my age talk about.
David Collard
August 5, 2011
Alte, you have a Fortress of Solitude?
I checked your photos again. You are very “pretty girl next door”. You would fit right into Melbourne, Australia. People would assume you were Italian. With a touch of Sophia Loren.
Yeah, I look a bit dumb. My wife says so too. I tell her that it is hard to fit “gorgeous” and “intelligent” onto one face.
David Collard
August 5, 2011
Yes, Svar, it is a bell curve, with a lognormal distribution.
Most women are fairly attractive. Gee, just having a vagina gives you a few points.
Svar
August 5, 2011
“Monica Bellucci is absolutely gorgeous.”
I second that. She’s hot and she’s Italian.
Svar
August 5, 2011
Clarence, I found the third girl on Roissy’s 1-10 post to be very pretty. What would you give her from 1-10? I’d say that she’s an 8.
Black_Rose
August 5, 2011
No, Alte, David Alexander said you are just a 6.5. Don’t exaggerate your beauty!
I look like a school girl, so I do not leave any initial impression abour my intelligence. More often than not, people tend to understimate my intelligence, since I rarely look at people’s faces in conversation, and tend to express a vacuous stare.
The Deuce, even though I dislike your political views, you analysis of Rebecca Watson seem accurate. I don’t trust feminists either, but I think actively fighting them is not worth my effort.
BTW, does anyone watch professional wrestling (even lightly) during the late 90s/early 00s? I have one question: would you consider Stone Cold Steve Austin’s gimmick “alpha” in a prole way? He certainly isn’ alpha as in a hedge fund manager who fucks his interns and has a nice trophy wife living in the Hamiltons, but he is “alpha” in any way?
Black_Rose
August 5, 2011
“Did” not “does”; I am asking about one’s actions during the past.
David Collard
August 5, 2011
I think you mean Hamptons, BR. Alte is an 8, I think. She gets an extra point for her huge – eyes.
BR, is your vacuous stare like Summer Glau? That would be OK.
Svar, I like d). She looks approachable. When I was on the market, I would have fancied that a bit. But personality is the key, once you have reasonable looks.
Morticia
August 5, 2011
I was surprised that G got 8′s and 9′s. I would think they would accuse her of having a man jaw.
The top one looked kind of pretentious and pagenty.
My personal favorite is the red-head. She looks sweet…like she would bake you brownies and knit you a sweater.
David Collard
August 5, 2011
Morticia, you have a face with character. Like a folk singer. Interesting.
Black_Rose
August 5, 2011
My bad. I meant the Hamptons,
Morticia
August 5, 2011
DC- lol. Well I said I looked like a cross between Natalie Merchant and Alanis Morisette. Was I far off the mark?
Black_Rose
August 5, 2011
You haven’t seen Alte, David C. David Alexander saw Alte. He said she’s a 6.5.
A Lady
August 5, 2011
Oh Black_Rose, you are magical and fantastical. You light up this site with your marvellous commentary.
David Collard
August 5, 2011
I have three photos of Alte she sent me, BR. She is at least an 8. She doesn’t make up like DA likes, but she has an abundance of raw material. She looks very good. She is too ethnic for my tastes. I am basically British and I like British girls, but she is very cute indeed.
Well, they are both nice looking women, Morticia. I think of Joan Baez. More my generation. You have character in your face, like my wife and my mother.
David Collard
August 5, 2011
British or Irish looking, I mean. My wife looks like a colleen.
BR, don’t be a dunce. Alte is more than a 6.5. DA likes to tease. You still haven’t told me if your vacous stare is like Summer Glau:
http://www.whedonsworld.co.uk/pix/interviews/2009/february/summer01.jpg
David Alexander
August 5, 2011
Alte is more than a 6.5. DA likes to tease.
No. It’s hard to rate her as higher because she simply lacks that raw sexuality or high beauty that higher ranking women have.
Well I said I looked like a cross between Natalie Merchant and Alanis Morisette. Was I far off the mark?
Spot on. I think there’s a great way for you to earn some money for your family. Start writing songs, and playing in bars and clubs to earn cash and then become a great musical success. Or at least be a stand in for Natalie Merchant…
Morticia
August 5, 2011
DA- haha. Now all I need is talent.
Black_Rose
August 5, 2011
She has large breasts, David C right?
BTW, both Davids, what do you think the early 2000s Stephanie McMahon Levesque ranks?
and this picture: http://www.stephaniemcmahon.net/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/gallery/stephanie-mcmahon/stephanie-mcmahon-6.jpg
I bet Alte rates lower than Stephanie. I certainly think she is more sexually attractive than me.
Black_Rose
August 5, 2011
BTW, is Jennifer banned or she just left?
David Collard
August 5, 2011
BR, that video is just ridiculous.
Alte has ample charms, which many men would love.
DA has specialised tastes.
David Alexander
August 5, 2011
I don’t look very bright, like DC said. LOL That’s one of the reasons I like to wear glasses.
Admittedly, that was one of the reasons I wanted Athena to wear glasses. With fashionable designer Euro-glasses, it would give her that smart and sexy look…
David Alexander
August 5, 2011
someone like DA would give large breasts a lot of extra points even if it comes with extra weight (see Megan McCain)
Megan is perfectly fine. Other women are just jealous of her good looks, and other men are just too gay to realize she’s attractive. I hope she never loses weight and stays that perfect size forever.
Kate Hudson he sees as unremarkable when other men would rate her an 8-9
She has a man chest!
I don’t get hit on much in the States, in fact. I’m more like a 3 here, apparently. LOL
They can smell the black woman from a mile away.
Black_Rose
August 5, 2011
It is indeed ridiculous; it is professional wrestling! Nevertheless, that particular event isn’t as absurd as the “Fingerpoke of Doom” (it has its own Wikipedia article and some YouTube clips exist on that event).
I have a confession: I am somewhat interested in the history of professional wrestling, and I recently read Wikipedia articles about the decline of the WCW (and watched relevant YouTube clips) and the triumph of the WWF.I never considered myself a spectator (I counted myself as an interested outside observer) who was actually engrossed in the storylines/gimmicks of professional wrestling, and I have never seen any WWE broadcast since late 2003, and have only watched about 12 hours (mostly during the late 1999 and early 2000s) of WWF Raw and SmackDown cumulatively my entire life (and never bought a WWF/E PPV). The Raw and Smackdown episodes I saw seemed like a 2 hour advertisment where wrestlers stated at [a WWF PPV event] I’ll brutually eviscerate you to win the [some WWF title] because I’m the best. Instead, I am interested in professional wrestling as a sociological, biophysical (particularly the cognitive stresses of that physical endeavor as evinced by the studies of Chris Benoit and Andrew “Test” Martin), and economic phenomenon. I want to understand why someone like Stone Cold Steve Austin (born Steve Anderson, he legally changed his name to Steve Austin) is admired by young adults. (Perhaps I am just a naive, autistic school girl who hasn’t really matured to understand men. I do not find Stone Cold endearing since all he did was repeat stale catchphrases, flip people off, drink beer, and disrepect his boss Vince McMahon). I suppose that impulse to admire Stone Cold is the same impulse that make teenager and young adult males to riot.
Black_Rose
August 5, 2011
It’s a confession because it is somewhat embarassing to admit that one likes professional wrestling (which I never said) and it is often considered unsophisticated and prole. (There was a wrestler in the WWE who went to Harvard and he quit. He’s now in a Ph.D program at Boston University and has several published papers, one on the protein tdp43 in the brain)
David Collard
August 5, 2011
I never admired aggressive men as a boy. So, I can’t help you, BR. I watched a couple of boxing videos once and I bought Kostya Tszyu’s autobiogaphy recently, the Australian boxer. But violence has never much interested me.
I don’t think men and women can ever fully understand each other. I admit that your attempts to puzzle out male behaviour sound like how an autistic person might approach the problem, someone like Temple Grandin, who has famously said she feels like an anthropologist on Mars. I thought the remark by the woman in the Verizon commercial you posted, about practising her surprised look, sounded a bit autistic, or at least INTJ.
I score more autistic than you BR and I get by fine. I think I have puzzled out human behaviour fairly well, with women’s being more of a challenge, being more apparently random. I suppose I find movies about robots faking being human especially intriguing for this kind of reason.
Black_Rose
August 5, 2011
“Megan is perfectly fine. Other women are just jealous of her good looks, and other men are just too gay to realize she’s attractive. I hope she never loses weight and stays that perfect size forever.”
I’m more jealous of Stephanie McMahon’s physique; she looks a good trophy wife for Triple H (Paul Levesque) as she was his kayfabe wife in the late 90s, early 00s; they legitimately married in 2003. I almost thought you meant Megan McArdle.
David Collard
August 5, 2011
BR, I do find mercenaries interesting. “Mad Mike” Hoare and the like. And special forces like the Green Berets. And some types of naval and riverine warfare. But I lack the intense military interest of some men, like my brother-in-law, a very intelligent man with a passion for military matters, who became an army officer.
Black_Rose
August 5, 2011
I like the fictional character of General Francis Xavier Hummel (Ed Harris) in the Michael Bay film “The Rock” (a reference to Alcatraz, not Dwayne Johnson). Hummel commandered a stockpile of VX poison gas, and he intended to use it to intimidate the US government into giving him money to pay for the mercenaries necessary for his operation and payments to the families of the men who died under his command and that the US government failed to honor. He threatened to use the VX on San Francisco civilians, but he was not able carry out his threat after the allotted amount of time he gave the US government to wire the money to him expired. Hummel is portrayed as an intelligent, selfless, and honorable man who was legitimate grievances against the US government on the behalf of his fallen comrades, but he was unwilling to put the lives of innocent people in jeopardy. In “The Rock”, his sadistic mercenaries were the actual villians, and Hummel is a sympathetic character who died with honor.
My favorite quote:
“There is no fucking money.” (while talking to his mercenaries who wants his “fucking money”)
Alte
August 5, 2011
I tell her that it is hard to fit “gorgeous” and “intelligent” onto one face.
ROFLMAO! My husband looks and acts a bit like a “dumb jock”, but he’s absolutely brilliant — much smarter than I am.
Clarence
August 5, 2011
Heh.
My original summary of Dawkin’s books was going to be very tongue-in-cheek with “beloved by Christians everywhere”. I was just thinking of that this morning and thought I’d share
Svar
August 5, 2011
You’ve got to realize that DA is the guy who thinks Amy Winehouse is hot, Megan Fox is KINDA hot, and that guidos are hot. He has poor taste. His opinion when it comes to rating women shouldn’t be taken as seriously as say David Collard’s.
Stadt-Land-Fluss
August 5, 2011
It’s interesting to see how easily a post on this site gets a few hundred comments in a short time and with a relative low number of commentators.
Alte
August 5, 2011
The distribution of the scores would depend upon the environment. I live in a rural area, where 6s are worshiped like goddesses. It must be a shock to go off to college, LOL. The population skews old and fat here.
They can smell the black woman from a mile away.
That’s probably it. Americans are more racist.
Alte
August 5, 2011
This site is sometimes like an intellectual’s Facebook.
It’s very conversational, and more and more of us have met in person.
Clarence
August 5, 2011
Amy Winehouse died recently of drug overdose.
At times when she wasn’t smashed or on the drugs she could be halfway decent, a (5) though in a way for her vanity it is good she died young as her appearance would have crashed even worse after a few more years. It was very obvious the drugs had already took some toil on her appearance if you look closely at some of her shots when she is not super made up. She had crows feet under her eyes and looked ten years older. Megan Fox USED to be smokin hot till she had a few plastic surgeries go wrong or something. She’s still a solid six, which puts her one point above Rebecca Watson.
terri
August 5, 2011
Terri is a bit *darker* than I expected
I’m actually slightly lighter than the picture indicates, DA. Not much, but a little.
Interesting that the pic Alte chose makes her look lighter and the pic I chose makes me look darker.
The “up” side is that no one who knows me will see it and automatically recognize it as me.
Clarence
August 5, 2011
Terri:
I rather like your look. It’s very thoughtful.
Svar
August 5, 2011
“The distribution of the scores would depend upon the environment. I live in a rural area, where 6s are worshiped like goddesses. It must be a shock to go off to college, LOL. The population skews old and fat here.”
Well, I think DC lives in a big Aussie city and he says you’re an 8. What amuses me is BR’s insistence that you are a 6.5. I wonder what her stake in the claim?
Svar
August 5, 2011
“Megan Fox USED to be smokin hot till she had a few plastic surgeries go wrong or something. She’s still a solid six,”
What? Megan Fox is definitely still a 9. I haven’t seen her since Transformers but still. She’s hot as hell.
Clarence
August 5, 2011
Svar’s got a CRUSH!
Svar’s got a CRUSH!
Oh, Svar and Megan ..true love
Oh, she’s a bit older and more “wordly” but I’m sure she’ll take you all the places you wanna be
terri
August 5, 2011
I rather like your look. It’s very thoughtful.
Thanks, Clarence.
Cane Caldo
August 5, 2011
“but I’m sure she’ll take you all the places you wanna be”
Ha! No doubt. Then leave him there, naked, bruised, and broke.
David Collard
August 5, 2011
I think she is an 8. But I am not used to the scale. I think an 8 because she has a spectacular figure and she is cute with very interesting eyes. She looks Hispanic to me, but I live in Oz so maybe she looks black to Americans. I don’t wish to be ungallant, but she is not my type. So I have no reason to be biased. I like them taller and leggier and Celtic looking. But a bosom man would be entranced by Alte. And she looks friendly and a bit naughty.
Svar
August 5, 2011
“Megan is perfectly fine. Other women are just jealous of her good looks, and other men are just too gay to realize she’s attractive. I hope she never loses weight and stays that perfect size forever.”
You like fat girls too? DA, DA, DA……. Even swine have better tastes than you.
Alte
August 5, 2011
The “up” side is that no one who knows me will see it and automatically recognize it as me.
This. I also used software to blur the picture slightly, and it made me even paler. It’s quite obvious that your picture is very dark overall. With both very bright and very dark pictures, features are more difficult to make out.
I don’t want to put a picture out there that can be “rated”. Also why I chose a profile, where my features are less visible. Morticia’s quite brave, as her lighting is balanced and her features are on full display. I’d…. rather not. No one can recognize me IRL based upon this particular pic.
Alte
August 5, 2011
DC,
A lot of Hispanic women are part-black. Sophia Loren, for instance, has spoken about her African ancestors before. Spanish, Italian, Mexican, and light mixed-race women all look sort of similar for that reason. Indefinable brown.
My husband thought I was Spanish, but in winter a lot of people think I’m Asian because I have such dark hair and get so incredibly pale. Much paler than my husband. This image is a February-shot, after all. I get asked a lot of I’m from Indonesia. But around here everyone assumes I’m Mexican, which is probably why I don’t get hit on very much.
In the pics you have, it’s spring and I have a tan again.
Bike Bubba
August 5, 2011
Somehow I get the feeling that the pictures here don’t really capture y’all. Perfectly attractive, each of you–no trains are taking dirt roads to avoid looking at you–but somehow it ain’t all that’s there, thank the Lord.
So if you’re up in Twine Ball Country, come by for a cup of coffee and whatever cookies my daughters decide to bake that day….
http://www.darwintwineball.com/
Cane Caldo
August 5, 2011
“no trains are taking dirt roads to avoid looking at you”
Hahaha! Great line.
David Collard
August 5, 2011
You look quite pale in my pics. If you lived in Oz, people would think you were Italian. We have a lot of Southern Italians here. Sicilians are sometimes said to have African blood.
I don’t understand DA. 6.5?!
Cane Caldo
August 5, 2011
I get the impression that DA has made a conscience decision to elevate the perverse. It goes with the hopeless decor.
At least, his online persona does.
terri
August 5, 2011
Somehow I get the feeling that the pictures here don’t really capture y’all.
That’s me, though Bubba. Long eyelashes, wide nose, full lips. The essence is there. It’s just that the lighting in the room was a little weird I think.
Svar
August 5, 2011
“I don’t understand DA. 6.5?!”
Of course you don’t understand, David. I don’t either. Cane is right when he said this: “I get the impression that DA has made a conscience decision to elevate the perverse.”
In DA’s world ugly = hot and hot = ugly. He’s the same guy who prefers the all glass church to a traditional, Classical looking one. His aesthetics are inverted from the norm and like Cane says, I think he does this on purpose.
Clarence
August 5, 2011
Svar:
The third girl in Roissy’s post?
I can’t rate her better without a full body shot but yes, she’s an 8 or a 9. She has a near perfect face, though her hair is not QUITE the type I prefer, I realize that is personal preference. Just going by facial features she is near perfect.
Svar
August 5, 2011
“She has a near perfect face, though her hair is not QUITE the type I prefer”
Her hair? Clarence, her hair looks like “sex-hair”. It seems like she just got back from a rough rogering. I don’t think it looks like that all the time.
The Deuce
August 5, 2011
Heh, okay, I guess I have to rate Alte, having met her.
And having met her… it’s hard to rate her based on it. At the DC meeting, she wasn’t really made-up much, and she was wearing loose-fitting clothing, so I can’t speak to the waist-to-boob ratio as it was rather well obscured. Still, she had a pretty face, and having a pretty face when it’s not especially made-up definitely counts for something. She’s got what you’d call a “big-boned” build, which would definitely be a minus for those who prefer slender women (I can go either way, personally, as long as the waist is trim). Provisionally, I will say she’s an 8.
Svar
August 5, 2011
“Provisionally, I will say she’s an 8.”
Oh, what? You give Alte an 8 as well? Uh-oh, looks like BR is going to get her panties all up in a bunch now.
Morticia
August 5, 2011
I have not met Alte but I saw a pic of her eyes on the old blog and knowing she is busty with a small waist I’d easily give her an 8. The picture she posted shows that she has a nice shape to her face and high cheeks but it doesn’t really show off her best assets.
alcestiseshtemoa
August 5, 2011
Note: Wow has the thread been derailed.
Amy Winehouse died recently of drug overdose.
Pictures below courtesy of ThinkingHousewife -> http://www.thinkinghousewife.com/wp/2011/08/is-this-the-twilight-of-feminine-self-hatred/
1 – Young Amy Winehouse -> http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-cJDFe9I83Ug/Tisw7uzwPvI/AAAAAAAAKOQ/1eAzJj0N-L0/s640/young_amy_winehouse.jpg
2 – Amy Winehouse turning into a star -> http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-tnL_HtCY0t8/TisqdO2qASI/AAAAAAAATd4/yocgCDqjzBE/s1600/600full-amy-winehouse.jpg
3 – Amy Winehouse at the peak of stardom -> http://blog.vh1.com/files/2011/07/amy_winehouse-1311444225.jpg
4 – Amy Winehouse as stardom wanes -> http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2008/09/13/article-1054873-02A289AD00000578-218_468x665.jpg
What a horrendous transformation. I’d advise caution for anyone entering the show business and entertainment.
A lot of Hispanic women are part-black. Sophia Loren, for instance, has spoken about her African ancestors before. Spanish, Italian, Mexican, and light mixed-race women all look sort of similar for that reason. Indefinable brown.
Alte you look like you possess minimal African descent. You strike me as a Latina woman. Typically I would say that Latina women are tanned and Asian women are yellow, neither are brown (unless you’re talking Native American women and a few types of Asian women like Filipinos).
I’m brown and my skin colour is like this actress called Kerry Washington -> http://images1.fanpop.com/images/image_uploads/Kerry-Washington-kerry-washington-822154_388_600.jpg
White skin -> http://www.wallpaperhub.net/pictures/Nicole-Kidman/Nicole-Kidman-19.JPG
Yellow skin -> http://smilepanic.com/wp-content/uploads/pretty-asian-girl-green.jpg
Tanned skin -> http://www.wedding-resource.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/rosario.jpg
Brown skin -> http://celebritywonder.ugo.com/picture/Tatyana_Ali/TatyanaAli_Granitz_13961134.jpg
Black skin -> http://www.zimbio.com/pictures/RCEu1Rg85YV/Gary+Barnett+Russell+Simmons+Present+Portraits/P-ja3BYzgFY/Oluchi+Onweagba
Bike Bubba
August 5, 2011
Terri; I’m talking about the personality, which is even harder to capture with a camera than facial features on someone with darker skin.
Of course, one would guess from the picture I shared that I’m a bit of a goofball, and one would be right, but then one doesn’t need a picture of me to figure that one out. :^)
Black_Rose
August 5, 2011
“Oh, what? You give Alte an 8 as well? Uh-oh, looks like BR is going to get her panties all up in a bunch now.”
What do you rate Stephanie McMahon? I think she was one of the few people I saw that made me insecure with my self-perception of my physique while seeing her on Raw and SmackDown a decade ago. She probably has her current position (head writer) in the WWE due to nepotism, but she could be a Diva even if she wasn’t Vince McMahon’s daughter. I would be too short for that job.
I think my only asset is a trim, hourglass figure and youthful looks. Other than that, I don’t bother with the “little things” such as manicures, pedicures, highlights, and breast implants (Stephanie has them).
One another scale. I think I hit a 90-93 on the gun. Alte maybe a 92-95
Chels
August 5, 2011
How old are you black_rose?
terri
August 5, 2011
I wonder why it matters how Black_Rose looks in comparison with Alte.
What purpose does the comparison serve other than to solidify the belief in the minds of the men here that women (all women, even traditional religious women) are shallow and silly?
The Deuce
August 5, 2011
BR:
What do you rate Stephanie McMahon?
She’s aight. I’d have given her a 7-7.5 before the surgeries.
I think my only asset is a trim, hourglass figure and youthful looks.
which is actually three major assets, not one
“little things” such as manicures, pedicures, highlights
which us guys don’t actually care about anyhow
and breast implants (Stephanie has them).
which are a negative to most of us in any event, so it’s just as well that you don’t have them
The Deuce
August 5, 2011
LOL, you could just put up a gravatar like all us cool kids, BR
Svar
August 5, 2011
BR, you watch WWE? I live in Texas and I don’t watch that crap. Now I know why you’re so obsessed with proles and proletariat revolutions, you’ve got their tastes as well. Forget religion being the opiate of the masses(LOL), panem et circenses is why the proles will never rise, hahahaha, the folly of the ideologue!! Die Aesir will defeat the Jotun at Ragnarok before die little proles have their little revolution.
As for Stephanie McMahon… She’s got a nice face and great tits but her body is wierd. Her waist is too wide for a woman. I give her a 7.
David Alexander
August 5, 2011
Amy Winehouse at the peak of stardom ->
Minus that horrible tattoo, she looks great in that picture with the hairdo and the makeup.
which us guys don’t actually care about anyhow
Guys with low standards don’t care about that. Those of us who actually like feminine women may feel otherwise.
Svar
August 5, 2011
“She’s aight. I’d have given her a 7-7.5 before the surgeries.”
Huh, you give her about a 7 as well? It seems that the 1-10 system is fairly objective like Cane said.
David Alexander
August 5, 2011
which are a negative to most of us in any event, so it’s just as well that you don’t have them
Anything less than a C up is a woman with a man’s chest.
Svar
August 5, 2011
“Guys with low standards don’t care about that. Those of us who actually like feminine women may feel otherwise.”
Your standards are inverted. So is your definition of feminine.
Svar
August 5, 2011
“Minus that horrible tattoo, she looks great in that picture with the hairdo and the makeup.”
Nope.
Chels
August 5, 2011
Anything less than a C up is a woman with a man’s chest.
DA, your standards are weird.
Chels
August 5, 2011
DA, all you should care about is if they pass the pencil test or not
Morticia
August 5, 2011
Depends on the body type. I think a B-cup looks good on a woman with a small frame but anything smaller and it might be time to consider some small natural looking implants (unless you are lucky enough to marry a man who could care less about boobs).
The Deuce
August 5, 2011
it might be time to consider some small natural looking implants
Or better yet if you want to go that route, actual natural ones (Google “Brava fat transfer”). The sooner plastic boob-bags pass out of existence, the better.
joanna
August 5, 2011
Good grief.
Morticia
August 5, 2011
The Deuce- That would be great.
Svar
August 5, 2011
I personally think that C-cups on a trim, proportional girl with a woman’s body(narrow shoulders, small waist, wide hips) and a pretty face is the best. Better than a fat girl with huge tits.
Chels
August 5, 2011
Hmmm, I have a B cup and I’m 5’8. When I was 25 pounds heavier (I blame it on all the late night studying/snacking), I barely reached the C. I’d take my small and perky boobs over big and sagging ones any day.
David Alexander
August 5, 2011
At the DC meeting, she wasn’t really made-up much, and she was wearing loose-fitting clothing
I’m going by what I saw at the DC meeting too, hence my score of 6.5. Alte certainly isn’t ugly, but to me she’s just too cute to be anything above a 7. I’m biased in my tastes, but I suspect others are biased because they know her and feel that anything lower is mean, or they’ve seen real photos of her with actual makeup.
As I like to note, the best looking female contestants on the Price is Right look awful compared to the models. If the models are 8s and 9s, there’s no way that the best looking contestants can be 8s themselves, thus leading to the conclusion that Alte can’t be anything higher than a 7.
And yes, Alte isn’t so much “mixed race” in a black sense, but she looks far more Hispanic which can depend on one’s region of the US or Indonesian. She barely passes as Italian, but my mother argues that our current governor and his father look “black”.
You like fat girls too? DA, DA, DA……. Even swine have better tastes than you.
I like my chubby white girls!
I get the impression that DA has made a conscience decision to elevate the perverse. It goes with the hopeless decor.
Or the artificial is more attractive in some cases than the natural.
David Alexander
August 5, 2011
Better than a fat girl with huge tits.
I’d rather have a chubby girl with DDs and a 40 in ass over a skinny girl with c cups.
Bike Bubba
August 5, 2011
Regarding Winehouse, the most telling thing about her was not her tats, or her breasts, but rather the face that spoke volumes of being brutalized by life, and the song lyrics that said exactly the same thing.
DA, you seriously need to start looking at a woman’s face instead of at her bosom. I’m as much a fan of sweet mammaries as anyone, as my wife could tell you, but if you can’t clue in to what’s going on in the eyes when you interact with someone, you’re going to walk into some nasty situations with people who are just flat out brutalized.
On the light side and another topic, when I saw the video that BR posted, my thought was “huh, I would have thought that ‘Black_Rose’ would be more, you know, ‘black.’” Shows me how much I know, and blessings on you, BR!
joanna
August 5, 2011
“you seriously need to start looking at a woman’s face instead of at her bosom.”
My brother has left a wake of chubby girls with huge boobs and broken hearts. And two kids to boot. It’s not a good way to decide who you want to sleep with. But he just can’t see past the large bosoms. It’s very sad. I hope he grows up soon. And he’s older than me.
Svar
August 5, 2011
“I like my chubby white girls!”
Gross. I’m pretty sure that you’re just extremely biased by your abnormal tastes. Chubby white girls…..
“Or the artificial is more attractive in some cases than the natural.”
No, it’s called elevating the perverse.
Svar
August 5, 2011
“I’d rather have a chubby girl with DDs and a 40 in ass over a skinny girl with c cups.”
To each his own. Someone’s gotta give the chubsters love.
The Deuce
August 5, 2011
Regarding Winehouse, the most telling thing about her was not her tats, or her breasts, but rather the face that spoke volumes of being brutalized by life, and the song lyrics that said exactly the same thing.
Actually, it’s both. I’ve seen women gain and lose weight before, obviously, but I’ve never seen a woman’s fundamental body type change like what happened to Winehouse. She went from curvy with big T&A (and a relatively trim waist) to an Ally-McBeal-like stick figure. That’s just wrong.
On the light side and another topic, when I saw the video that BR posted, my thought was “huh, I would have thought that ‘Black_Rose’ would be more, you know, ‘black.’”
You couldn’t tell from all the prattling about Mao and Henry CK Lui?
Chels
August 5, 2011
To each his own. Someone’s gotta give the chubsters love.
It does explain why you see so often fat white women with black dudes who could do so much better if they could get their act together.
Svar
August 5, 2011
“My brother has left a wake of chubby girls with huge boobs and broken hearts. And two kids to boot. It’s not a good way to decide who you want to sleep with. But he just can’t see past the large bosoms. It’s very sad. I hope he grows up soon. And he’s older than me.”
Pump-n-dumping is never a good thing to do.
Svar
August 5, 2011
“It does explain why you see so often fat white women with black dudes who could do so much better if they could get their act together.”
The white women or the black dudes? However, I’ve noticed that as well.
Chels
August 5, 2011
Probably both. They’re such a common sighting in Toronto, the over 250 pound White woman with average weight Black guy, sometimes pushing a stroller.
Svar
August 5, 2011
“You couldn’t tell from all the prattling about Mao and Henry CK Lui?”
I at first thought she was black, then I thought she was a Scandinavian, but after the incessant yapping about Mao and Henry CK Liu(neither of whom anyone cares about) I realized that she was Chinese.
Black_Rose
August 5, 2011
Svar, I already addressed my interest in the WWE/F in a previous post:
I have a confession: I am somewhat interested in the history of professional wrestling, and I recently read Wikipedia articles about the decline of the WCW (and watched relevant YouTube clips) and the triumph of the WWF.I never considered myself a spectator (I counted myself as an interested outside observer) who was actually engrossed in the storylines/gimmicks of professional wrestling, and I have never seen any WWE broadcast since late 2003, and have only watched about 12 hours (mostly during the late 1999 and early 2000s) of WWF Raw and SmackDown cumulatively my entire life (and never bought a WWF/E PPV). The Raw and Smackdown episodes I saw seemed like a 2 hour advertisment where wrestlers stated at [a WWF PPV event] I’ll brutually eviscerate you to win the [some WWF title] because I’m the best. Instead, I am interested in professional wrestling as a sociological, biophysical (particularly the cognitive stresses of that physical endeavor as evinced by the studies of Chris Benoit and Andrew “Test” Martin), and economic phenomenon. I want to understand why someone like Stone Cold Steve Austin (born Steve Anderson, he legally changed his name to Steve Austin) is admired by young adults. (Perhaps I am just a naive, autistic school girl who hasn’t really matured to understand men. I do not find Stone Cold endearing since all he did was repeat stale catchphrases, flip people off, drink beer, and disrepect his boss Vince McMahon). I suppose that impulse to admire Stone Cold is the same impulse that make teenager and young adult males to riot.
Svar
August 5, 2011
“Probably both. They’re such a common sighting in Toronto, the over 250 pound White woman with average weight Black guy, sometimes pushing a stroller.”
Really? In Toronto? Regardless, that’s gross. Chubby chasers sicken me.
David Alexander
August 5, 2011
you seriously need to start looking at a woman’s face instead of at her bosom
I do! I need a sexual face AND bosoms to have any real attraction to a woman.
Chubby white girls…..
Take an 8 add ten to twenty pounds, pump up the boobs and rear, and perfect. Now she looks like a woman.
It does explain why you see so often fat white women with black dudes who could do so much better if they could get their act together.
So have argued that it’s because both sides are desperate and see each other as a step up above their native sex partners, while others would note that black men are more willing to forgive larger weight. This does not imply that black men will date any fat woman, but that the chubbier girls that some white men call fat are perfectly acceptable to black men.
Svar
August 5, 2011
“Take an 8 add ten to twenty pounds, pump up the boobs and rear, and perfect. Now she looks like a woman”
Fat girls don’t look like women, they look like Jabba the Hut. Try again.
The Deuce
August 5, 2011
BR:
I suppose that impulse to admire Stone Cold is the same impulse that make teenager and young adult males to riot.
Both to riot and to make civilizations – it’s the aggression, silly.
Black_Rose
August 5, 2011
I’ll post this again:
BTW, does anyone watch professional wrestling (even lightly) during the late 90s/early 00s? I have one question: would you consider Stone Cold Steve Austin’s gimmick “alpha” in a prole way? He certainly isn’t a high-class “alpha” as in a hedge fund manager who fucks his interns and has a nice trophy wife living in the Hamptons, but he is “alpha” in any way?
Black_Rose
August 5, 2011
David C, do you know anything about professional wrestling? Ironically, I think I know the most about the WWE/F here, mainly because I read Wikipedia articles on professional wrestling-related topics.
Morticia
August 5, 2011
“10 to 20 lbs” is not Jabba the Hut.
Svar- if you are that repulsed by a little bit of weight then you are not going to handle a womans pregnancy very well. Something to consider when you get married.
Black_Rose
August 5, 2011
“This site is sometimes like an intellectual’s Facebook. It’s very conversational, and more and more of us have met in person.”
I don’t think we could met in person since you live on the East Coast. I actually gave a hint in this thread to where I actually live. (Don’t give it away by looking up IPs.)
The Deuce
August 5, 2011
BTW, does anyone watch professional wrestling (even lightly) during the late 90s/early 00s?
I did, lightly. I stayed at my uncle, aunt, and cousins’ house for a semester in college, and they had it on frequently.
I have one question: would you consider Stone Cold Steve Austin’s gimmick “alpha” in a prole way?
Hard to say. He’s definitely supposed to be sort of a redneck’s “people’s champion” against “the man” (namely Vince McMahon), but at the same time, he’s really just play-acting a character, and not a particularly deeply written one at that, and all his parts are scripted. The way they wrote him he wasn’t much of an alpha in the Roissy sense, simply because he didn’t chase after and get women, but definitely an alpha in the “leader of men” sense.
Svar
August 5, 2011
“Svar- if you are that repulsed by a little bit of weight then you are not going to handle a womans pregnancy very well. Something to consider when you get married.”
I don’t mean it like that. I don’t care if she’s huge because she’s pregnant, but I’m not going to chubby-chase from the get-go. Some people, for some reason, like chubsters who are fat not because they’re pregnant or were pregnant but because they’re pigs who can’t lay off the ice cream and slop. I differentiate, Morticia.
The Deuce
August 5, 2011
I actually gave a hint in this thread to where I actually live. (Don’t give it away by looking up IPs.)
I’m going to say LA
Black_Rose
August 5, 2011
Deuce, did you Uncle purchase the PPV. I never watched a WWF/E PPV.
I agree with your cursory analysis of Stone Cold. I will say it again: I consider him stale. He just gives people stunners, drink piss, and disrespect his boss. The writers try to give a him a vendetta with another wrestler that they will settle at a PPV. I remember some feud Austin had with Triple H, and they solved it in a brutal PPV match. I saw the ending on YouTube recently, and I was appalled (from the ex post facto perspective after learning about the results of the Benoit and Martin brain autopsies) that it ended when Triple H and SCSA knock each other out (HHH had a sledgehammer and Austin a steel hair) and HHH landed on Austin for the win.
It is not like we he gives Stunners, it is surprising. Stunning the boss and his family seems too cliche after a while.
Black_Rose
August 5, 2011
I said I gave the hint here. Here’s something else to confirm or conflict with your guess. “I feel priviledged to listen to Vinny”.
Black_Rose
August 5, 2011
*prvileged
Morticia
August 5, 2011
Chess, Baseball, and Wrestling? Black Rose is quite the alpha chaser.
Bike Bubba
August 5, 2011
Ted Lilly start, BR. So you’re in or around Los Diablos, I mean Angeles. And the way you talk about disrespecting one’s boss of Mr. Austin (who has a namesake who works for the Creation Research Institute, hee hee), I’m guessing you may be asian.
Svar
August 5, 2011
I doubt she lives in America. I’ve heard her go on a little rant about how much she hates Americans.
The Deuce
August 5, 2011
I said I gave the hint here.
Yup, and I based my guess on the fact that you were watching Ted Lilly start.
I feel priviledged to listen to Vinny
I dunno, guess you could be talking about Vinny Del Negro or something.
Deuce, did you Uncle purchase the PPV. I never watched a WWF/E PPV.
Nah, nobody was actually serious about it. They just watched it because it was on, and because the ridiculousness of it all was mildly amusing when there wasn’t much else to do. We mostly just made cracks at how absurd the acting was and so forth.
Black_Rose
August 5, 2011
* I am not a fan of wrestling. I saw an article about CM Punk (Phillip Jack Brooks) on Yahoo and clicked the link while I was trying to check on my Yahoo email account, and I just became interested in wrestling again. (Interested doesn’t mean actually watching Raw or buying the SummerSlam PPV.) From a business perspective, the WWE is doing well now, with more than 1 million PPV buys for WrestleMania XXVII in 2011; that information interests me more than the actual “wrestling” and current storylines. I am also interested the detail reasons why the WWF prevailed over the WCW; it is more of an interest in popular culture than the actual WWE product. In other words, I consider myself as an outside observer, not a consumer of WWE media (I haven’t watched any WWE programming, with the exception of YouTube clips, since late 2003).
In contrast, I am genuinely engrossed in baseball and see myself more than an outside observer as I love the game although I am not a fan of any particular team. I watch each game to see something truly memorable, and the Tim Lincecum 14 K shutout against the Braves is a recent memory; witnessing some of Mariano’s rare fuck-ups are also memorable such as being unable to guillotine the Red Sox in Game 4/5 of the 2004 ALCS (and that home run he gave up to Alomar). I actually cherish those memories; in contrast, I merely consider the WWE/F “amusing” but never profound or majestic. Unlike wrestling, the outcomes of the games and season are influenced by stochastic luck, the team’s talent level, managerial (and front-office business transactions). I care more about the Pittsburgh Pirate’s record this season than the result of a Stone Cold/Rock PPV match since the former is more “real” than the latter.
BTW, is pitching considered an alpha activity? Especially if the pitcher is someone who could throw complete-game and shutouts, and maintain a high K/BB ratio. I said before that I could barely throw a baseball.
alcestiseshtemoa
August 5, 2011
Regarding Winehouse, the most telling thing about her was not her tats, or her breasts, but rather the face that spoke volumes of being brutalized by life, and the song lyrics that said exactly the same thing.
Agreed. Also for all of you out there about women’s figure in my opinion the hourglass is the best (warning: indecent picks) -> http://hourglasswomen.net/
alcestiseshtemoa
August 5, 2011
Sorry I mean “indecent pictures”.
alcestiseshtemoa
August 5, 2011
Much better picture -> http://i1-news.softpedia-static.com/images/news2/Hourglass-Women-Have-Drug-Like-Effect-on-Male-Brain-2.jpg
Svar
August 5, 2011
Alcest, I’d say that the hour-glass and pear-shapes are the best.
Black_Rose
August 5, 2011
“I dunno, guess you could be talking about Vinny Del Negro or something.”
You’re obviously smart enough to know which Vinny I’m referring to, especially in the context of the hints.
** Nice reference. I honestly didn’t know Vinny Del Negro is actually the coach of the LA Clippers. I don’t follow the NBA.
Black_Rose
August 5, 2011
I meant to ask if David Alexander knows anything about professional wrestling.
Clarence
August 5, 2011
Please look at the second chart, guys/gals..I laughed till I had tears.
http://www.hookingupsmart.com/2011/08/02/relationshipstrategies/the-sexual-revolution-and-you/
David Collard
August 5, 2011
BR, I don’t know anything about professional wrestling. I read a bit on Wikipedia after you brought it up. We did have it on Australian TV when I was a boy. I remember Killer Kowalski, who was a villain, and Mario Milano who was a cleancut Italian Australian, and so on.
Boob size seems to be another American obsession. I was never that interested, although in more recent years I have noticed a bit more. I wonder if women are not better endowed on average these days. Some of the young women in my office are huge, although these are tall girls. My wife had lovely breasts, but they were a bit wasted on me. No-one will believe this, I suppose, but even at 50 her breasts are still quite firm and enviable. She would probably pass the pencil test.
Svar
August 5, 2011
“pencil test”?
Black_Rose
August 5, 2011
I meant to say David Alexander, DC. I know you would not know much about professional wrestling. I don’t remember the Killer, but I know he’s dead and he ran a professional wrestling school attended by some people currently working the WWE and TNA.
David Collard
August 5, 2011
BR, Killer Kowalski was on Australian TV in the later 1960s.
Svar, the girl tries to tuck a pencil under her breast. If it stays there, too much sag to go braless.
Svar
August 5, 2011
Ahh, I see what you mean, David. I personally, think that C-cups are the best. Anything less is to small and anything larger is going to sag heavily.
David Collard
August 5, 2011
Yes, my wife is a 36C, I think. But I don’t think it is the most important thing about a woman.
David Collard
August 5, 2011
Svar, I have just had this mental image of all the female readers looking for a pencil.
Morticia
August 5, 2011
I told my husband that he isn’t allowed to complain about my chest size unless he is willing to purchase new ones.
David Collard
August 5, 2011
I tease my wife about her “huge bazongas” a lot. Just to irritate her.
cane caldo
August 5, 2011
I now have no compass for what criteria the mods use for shutting down threads.
In the meantime: It’s very strange to compare and contrast the two Davids. Each one’s life story is the inversion of the others. I feel like I’m supposed to be guessing under which walnut is the pea?
Svar
August 5, 2011
“Svar, I have just had this mental image of all the female readers looking for a pencil.”
Hahahaha!
Morticia
August 5, 2011
Cane- the answer to that is “sensibilities of the mod on duty”. Since I hate making decisions I tend to err on the side of not making any.
This is INFP leadership for you.
Svar
August 5, 2011
“In the meantime: It’s very strange to compare and contrast the two Davids. Each one’s life story is the inversion of the others. I feel like I’m supposed to be guessing under which walnut is the pea?”
It seems that one is happy and the other is miserable. I wonder why?
Svar
August 5, 2011
“I tease my wife about her “huge bazongas” a lot. Just to irritate her.”
Heh, what does she do? Ask for a cuddle?
David Alexander
August 5, 2011
But I don’t think it is the most important thing about a woman.
I’d argue it’s what separates women from failed men…
David Collard
August 5, 2011
I think DA would be as happy as me.
I have been trying to behave on this new blog.
Svar, I think she is touchy about it. I only do it as a joke. It is partly funny because she is a bit of a modest librarian lady.
Svar
August 5, 2011
“I’d argue it’s what separates women from failed men…
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So if we got you, a failed man, a pair of knockers you’d become a woman? You’re probably right.
Svar
August 5, 2011
“I think DA would be as happy as me.”
If he was in your place? I agree. He would be.
cane caldo
August 5, 2011
DC, I never followed any other blogs of the mods, so I have no reference for your good or bad. For the record, I wasn’t accusing either of you of being bad.
David Collard
August 5, 2011
Cane, I get carried away sometimes. I have tried to cool it here.
Svar, my life is not perfect. I suppose I am fairly happy. I am a bit surprised at what I can get at home. And work has been good in the last few years. But I have had some trying experiences. I suspect DA wants less so he is happy with less. I have a strong vision of what I want and am quietly determined to get it. But striving and discontent can make one unhappy.
BTW, DA is clearly smart. He writes about finances, most of it over my head.
Black_Rose
August 5, 2011
So David Alexander, did you watch any professional wrestling? You seem like the type of person who would be mildly amused by it. I found it mildly amusing, or perhaps you are embarrassed to admit you actually liked it.
I became interested because Jennifer mentioned she watched the film “The Wrestler” and I went on a brief tangent about pro-wrestling.
And no, I don’t really take professional wrestling (what occurs in the ring) seriously; it is not like their “accomplishments” (winning a wrestling title belt or matches) represent anything meritorious or signify competitive dominance or athletic prowess. In contrast, I actually revere Cy Young winners more than the WWE “Superstars” (their term, I would merely call them “professional wrestlers) than the winners of a WWE title (like SCSA, The Rock, John Cena,CM Punk, and Triple H). I am actually more engaged when I watch a pitcher throw a complete-game shutout (or even a quality start) than from watching the Dudley Boyz, the Hardy Brothers (they are legitimate brothers), and Edge and Christian fight in a “tables, ladders, and chairs” match.
Svar
August 5, 2011
“Svar, my life is not perfect. I suppose I am fairly happy. I am a bit surprised at what I can get at home. And work has been good in the last few years. But I have had some trying experiences.”
No one’s life is perfect, David. I recognize that. Right now I’m going through some tough times, but I don’t feel like giving up. When I get through all of this, I plan on getting my life together. What irritates me is that some people complain about they don’t have, but they don’t even put out the effort to obtain those things.
David Collard
August 5, 2011
Svar, I have had major health worries. We aren’t meant to be totally happy in this world.
Svar
August 5, 2011
What a coincidence, David, I’m having a major health worry. My main point is that, yes, life can be a bitch at times, but that doesn’t mean you should give up on life. That’s the cowards way out.
David Collard
August 5, 2011
I pray for everyone on this blog, Svar.
David Alexander
August 5, 2011
So David Alexander, did you watch any professional wrestling?
Nope. Never had an interest in it when I was younger.
alcestiseshtemoa
August 5, 2011
I pray for everyone on this blog, Svar.
How kind.
Note: Has there been a thread derailment or am I imagining it?
David Alexander
August 6, 2011
Has there been a thread derailment or am I imagining it?
Derailment? This thread makes a Chinese high speed rail “incident” look like a slight delay.
The Deuce
August 6, 2011
BR:
their term, I would merely call them “professional wrestlers
Actually, that term bugs me too. It especially annoyed me when I wrestled in high school. What “professional” “wrestlers” do is not the professional equivalent of what “amateur” wrestlers do, the former being cheesy performance art and the latter being an actual competitive sport.
The Deuce
August 6, 2011
Note: Has there been a thread derailment or am I imagining it?
Huh? How can you not see the obvious relevance of everything we’re talking about to ElevatorGate?
David Alexander
August 6, 2011
If he was in your place? I agree. He would be.
Would I be? I mean, it’s not exactly the kind of life style that allows me to drop everything and go disappear in Europe to go ride trains or go roadgeeking on the Interstate and come back with no penalties.
Besides, I want the hot wife (by my standards) with the high paying career with three daughters. He only has two!
BTW, DA is clearly smart. He writes about finances, most of it over my head.
It’s pretty easy to parrot a few things that one has learned from others.
but they don’t even put out the effort to obtain those things.
Maybe they’ve calculated that it’s impossible for them to obtain those things for one reason or another.
but that doesn’t mean you should give up on life. That’s the cowards way out.
I can understand why somebody may want to give up due to their relative position vis à vis others. Arguably, those who threaten suicide and then back out at the last moment are the cowards as they lacked the courage to fully implement their decision.
Black_Rose
August 6, 2011
Actually, that term bugs me too. It especially annoyed me when I wrestled in high school. What “professional” “wrestlers” do is not the professional equivalent of what “amateur” wrestlers do, the former being cheesy performance art and the latter being an actual competitive sport
I know that. What Kurt Angle does in the ring now on TNA is totally different from his actual accomplishment of winning the medals in amateur wrestling at the 1996 Atlanta Olympics.
I don’t know any other term for “professional wrestlers”. According to this video, it seems that the 1980s WCW had more “physical” wrestling without any props (and it looked fairly “safe” for the wrestler’s heads, although I seen a few piledrivers, but the head never touches the mat if done correctly). In contrast, I remember that the WWF had performers hitting each other, often in the head, with steel chairs, sledgehammers, ladders, ring bells, and the steel steps. I am not implying that wrestling is safe, and it is likely that the wrestlers out of ring habits and steroid and analgesic consumption contributes to high mortality rate of that profession. The Attitude Era (it has its own Wikipedia article) made wrestling associated with theatrics and risque content.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lozJ-Bzumeo (currently watching it since it whets my current interest with the history of the WCW)
terri
August 6, 2011
@ Cane:
I’d say the criteria for shutting down threads is when the comments have reached 600 and none of the last 300 refer to the post.
Especially when there are great and more recent posts going ignored.
Thread closed.