Do women have a duty to be beautiful?

Posted on August 15, 2011 by


In 2010 Simcha Fisher hosted a pantsgate controversy in the Catholic Blogosphere.  For those unfamiliar- every so often the most popular Catholic bloggers have an impassioned debate about the morality of women’s attire.  It often brings out the highly conservative men who seem oblivious to the fact that their confessions to being scandalized by pants on women makes them seem a wee bit creepy.  That’s the recap, but it isn’t what this post is about.

Bud McFarlane of CatholicCity fame had an interesting comment that didn’t go over well with just about anyone, especially the women:

[Wear skirts] for us, the minority of chaste men who merit the gift of enjoying your beauty in such a way as to be grateful to your creator without temptation. Make it so it is good for men to look upon you, rather than requiring us to look away (which is a tragedy).

Perhaps not everyone interprets his comment the same way but most seem to have read it as saying that women have a duty to *all* men (not just their husbands) to be pretty.

My Opinion:  Some women are just NOT pretty and no amount of lipstick, heels, and dresses are going to make them pretty.  It strikes me as just slightly cruel to ask a woman who has the misfortune of being unattractive to pretend like she is capable of being pretty.  For some women dresses and make-up look as ridiculous on them as it would on Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson.

I am a big fan of personal dignity, and for some unfeminine women it is more dignified to dress in a classy androgynous manner than in a feminine manner.

Its always a shame when a pretty girl dresses like a butch dike (I’m looking at you Kristen Stewart) but a woman who is estrogenically challenged does herself a major disservice by living in denial.  Let her have her  pant suits and leave the dresses to the women who don’t walk like a man.

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