Our Dark Secret Revealed: Traditionalism all comes down to s-e-x!

Posted on September 2, 2011 by


Judging by some of the commentary around the tradosphere, it would seem as if traditionalists in the post-modern era should be confined to the rarefied air of adoration chapels, Vision Forum, or those creepy museums of childhood field trips, reduced to human anachronisms posed for still life vignettes.   That we live in the here and now is near impossible for many to grasp.

To the traditionally minded “the Christian life” is not one of God only on Sunday mornings and Wednesday nights,  one more item placed on a schedule,  but rather an integral day in and day out way of going, incorporating the practices of community and solidarity into every aspect –  work, recreation, and home life.   On line and in person, we debate the macro and the micro endlessly, are in each others business about everything:  economics, politics, charity, doctrine, orthodoxy, homemaking, child rearing  – it’s difficult to decide if it’s ironic or absurd that when it comes to the issue of sex, in a world where virtually nothing is off-limits, we are suddenly being inappropriate or less than Christian to dare broach the subject outside the “wait until marriage” or “submit” meme.   The only difference is, with regard to the intimacy of the subject matter , is that married sex takes place outside the visibly public arena (I was about to write that it takes place naked, but who’s to say?), yet what has more effect on all that pertains to the framework of traditionalism –  healthy marriages, and the right attitudes of husbands and wives – save God  Himself?

Talking about sex is in part talking about traditional Christianity, so yes, we talk about it– and quite a lot, especially the modern politics that influence attitudes toward it and the abuse of it in the contemporary culture.  We also discuss it on an interpersonal level  – the traditionalist understands that  it is more than marital obligation, more than procreation – it is profoundly unitive, reinforcing  the seal that creates family, preserves stability, and engenders familial bonds and good will between two people who are no less likely than their secular counterparts  to find themselves on the wrong side of decidedly non-traditional divorce.   It follows that frank discussions about sex are of the utmost importance.  There are some contexts that serve better than others,  but aside from more time for prayer, the only reason I can imagine a traditional Christian should talk less about sex would be for a married one to leave more time to engage in it.