What’s a Fair Division of Household Labor?

Posted on February 5, 2012 by


“Therefore I desire that the younger marry, bear children, manage the house, and give no opportunity to the adversary to speak reproachfully.” 1 Timothy 5:14

“…that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.” Titus 2: 4-5

I began this post with a relevant scripture because what I’m going to say next will be controversial to some, if not offensive,  to many modern Christian women. And no, I’m not going to argue that it’s sinful for women with children to hold a job.

survey by the Pew Research Center revealed that 62% of respondents said that the sharing of household chores is “very important” to the success of a marriage. However, and I concede that this is anecdotal and not scientific, in most marriages the lion’s share of household management is handled by the wife. So, the question becomes: why, if we believe that chores should be shared, are they not? I believe that women are, by virtue of Creative design,  better suited to managing the day to day affairs of running a household. In a politically correct world, bent on creating the illusion of an androgynous society where women and men are equally capable of performing all tasks equally well, this is regarded as heresy. Some will argue that this isn’t always the case and that there are an increasing number of families where the husband takes care of the day to day affairs. This may be true, but it is the exception, not the rule.

It’s interesting to note that the research also shows that no matter how accomplished a bride is before the wedding, and how progressive the groom, it doesn’t take long for each to ease into these roles: the husband becomes the protector/provider, and the wife becomes the household manager.

That brings me to the point of all this: what’s so wrong with that? When did it become demeaning to devote oneself to the care and nurturing of someone else, namely our husbands and children? Our future as a society depends largely on the job we do in our homes, with our children, today. It would be ashamed to reach the end of our never ending quest to be more, do more, and have more only to find that what we have isn’t worth much, if anything at all.

Of course, these memes almost always neglect to consider the household chores tackled by husbands that don’t need to be performed as regularly. Who cares about that stuff?