My Growing Problem With Conservatism

Posted on May 23, 2012 by


Is that all too often, the principles get lost because at the core, the belief systems are the same as liberalism. It’s liberalism lite. The only difference is the wrapping. The contents are the same once you peel back the layers: materialism, feminism, secularism.

I was reminded of this as I read the coverage of this story at the conservative opinion blog, Hot Air:

My gut reaction: Of course stay-at-home moms are stressed, they live in poorer households than women who work do. This result is simply an artifact of worrying about money, not having to take care of kids. Right? Actually … no.

The first thing that struck me was the bloggers substituting a diagnosis of stress where the Gallup poll noted depression. Our family is currently living through a season of stress, but I am not depressed. Living in a situation where finances are tight can be stressful, but need not lead to depression unless one has an exaggerated or unrealistic expectations of what is an acceptable standard of living.

Rather than look beneath the surface, Hot Air immediately pounced on the feminist meme of women needing the independence and financial security only found at work:

When you’re this close to dire poverty and homelessness, knowing that you have it in your power to put food on the table for your kids may be something of a psychological relief; if you show up every day and do your job well, you stand a fair chance of holding down a steady paycheck. If, on the other hand, you’re a SAHM married to a man who’s earning less than $36,000 a year, the only thing standing between you and dire poverty or homelessness is his ability to show up every day and do his job well. And the painful truth is that not every husband is going to do that. Simply put, financial independence may mean less worry in the aggregate even if it means more responsibilities.

Of course Gallup found that the levels of depression were not isolated among lower income SAHM’s only, but extended all the way up the income ladder, which left the Hot Air pundit stumped:

That explains the problem for lower-income SAHMs but, as noted up top, it doesn’t explain why anger, sadness, and depression are higher for stay-at-home moms than for working moms across all income levels. Here’s where you come in, HA commenters: Why is that? Any theories?  Could be that modern expectations that an educated woman should have both a career and a family are weighing on even rich SAHMs and making them question their choices, but beyond that I’ve got nothing. How about it, ladies?

I do in fact have a theory or two, but I’ll wait to here what my fellow traditionalists have to say on the matter.  For now, I can’t help but notice the similarity of thought between liberalism and modern conservatism. As Chris well noted, this can’t be helped when we try to champion traditional values apart from higher principles, specifically the gospel:

Because we do not preach the gospel but a pale version of morality, denying the power within the gospel. we think we deserve all spiritual blessings and happiness. Women who think this will never, ever be satisfied by any man.

Or any amount of money, or any level of education, or children, or beauty, nothing. We will continue to be perpetually dissatisfied. Yeah, we’ve come a long way.

(h/t: Sheila)