To my surprise, my last post (Tuning out rather than moving out) received a lot of negative criticism. I usually don’t post rebuttals, but this one was so universally disliked that I felt compelled to formally address the points.
Here is the gist of the complaints so far, with the numbering corresponding to the relevant points in the first article:
1.) Many women cannot wear distinctive clothing because their husbands do not like it.
Fair enough. I am in the same situation. This says nothing about whether or not this step has a useful purpose. The fact that our husbands would rather see us in jeans or a miniskirt than promote group adherence through dress is irrelevant.
2.) We do not want to become too socially isolated.
Fair enough. I would propose that people who place a priority upon social integration aren’t interested in separatism to begin with. The original article listed methods for increasing separatism, and was aimed at people who desire such a thing.
Yes, some young people will eventually find out what “the real world” is like and want to run off to join the circus, but many others will see and experience the world and come right back, just as I did. The world is, in truth, quite repulsive and lonely.
Those who are lost to Christ are an issue for the missionaries. We are told to raise our children right, not to follow them around for the rest of their lives like a spiritual babysitter.
The rest of them are better off not having their minds twisted by corruption as they are attempting to develop into healthy individuals. Once they are older, they are free to make their choice. But you give them no choice if you raise them with the depravity, so that they are incapable of discerning just how depraved it all is. They become desensitized and I prefer to protect my children’s natural sense of disgust and horror.
5.) Nobody liked this one.
Fair enough. But remember that this article is about separatism. How can we promote a separate culture without losing our young women (and it’s usually young women, with the men trailing them) to the wider culture? The answer is simple: promote early vocational discernment.
The Amish practice this very well, with most marriages occurring before the age of 23 (21 for women). Yes, some young women rebel and run away. This is unavoidable in a society of strict mores. The error is in remodeling society in order to cater to the runaways while leaving the rest of the women to flounder in the cesspool of your own creation.
In the parable of the lost sheep, the shepherd goes off to find it and bring it back to the flock. He does not drive the entire flock into the ditch after it. This sort of nonsense pandering is precisely the problem we are now having to fix. I understand that this will not necessarily make women happier, but trying to make women happy is a fool’s errand.